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Leadership Self-Awareness Clears the Fog!


Great leaders prevent their weaknesses from becoming paralyzing blind spots. This leadership self-awareness fosters employee self-awareness and creates a high performance culture.


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Leadership Self-Awareness: 13 Lies Weak Leaders Bequeath to Everyone

When leaders are not self-aware, they hold the organization back from its true potential. Let’s consider some of the common examples.

  1. I hired the arrogant overbearing candidate because I can be up front with them. With excellent people skills, you can be up front with all your employees. Why do you think you can’t be? Organizational success depends on respectful openness and conversations that move things forward. Develop some leadership self-awareness so you don’t bequeath your fear to the organization.

  2. I make all the decisions because my team is immature. Well then who is developing them? Immaturity doesn’t mean people can’t mature. Great leaders model and mentor. Show courage to be accountable even when you are not directly responsible. Otherwise you leave a legacy of un-empowered employees.

  3. I give people endless chances to develop a great attitude because I’m kind. Or is it that you want to be liked? You can be kind and firm in addressing a persistent bad attitude. Address the bad attitude so you don’t bequeath it to the entire team to endure.

  4. I won’t fire people because I have integrity. Firing people doesn’t mean you lack integrity. If you must let someone go, know and communicate the reasons. Running from your responsibilities while you still hold the position leaves a difficult void.

  5. Extroverts don’t think things through. This old myth reveals your unwillingness to appreciate and lead diverse people. It under utilizes the talent already hired and disengages employees. Respect the differences or you create a homogeneous culture of intolerance.

  6. Introverts slow team success. Introverts don’t work more slowly nor do they slow team success. Your discomfort with quiet thinking is the true issue here. Develop some leadership self-awareness to move past your limits. Otherwise you leave much talent untapped.

  7. There is no I in team. Of course there is. There are many “I’s” in team who contribute their talents to the whole. This old maxim shows a desire to command and control. Inspire and appreciate each team member or you leave the teams less engaged than they could be.

  8. Pessimism and negativity are healthy. Skepticism and critical thinking can be healthy. Pessimism and negativity are toxic. Are you mistaking one for the other or are you uncomfortable in highly positive environments. Develop more leadership self-awareness to address this culture issue!

  9. Collaboration is risky because everybody thinks the same thing. Collaboration is not mindless agreement. People explore many possibilities as they work together. Could it be that you are highly competitive and uncomfortable around collaborators? In truth, people don’t have to be competitive for the organization to win. Collaborators are stronger than you think.

  10. Teamwork is important BUT this employee produces. If you have fallen into this trap, you’ve declared that individual performance matters, teamwork doesn’t. This can be the death knell for teamwork. People will see that you recognize non-team playing mavericks and teamwork erodes.

  11. Emotional intelligence is a bunch of nonsense. Leaders who say this show their lack of emotional intelligence. Self-awareness and awareness of others’ needs impact results. Emotional intelligence is at the heart of great leadership. If you push your way around without it, talent leaves. You create a legacy of high turnover.

  12. I can’t lead change because you can’t change people. You are telling the world that you don’t know how to lead change. Leading change is about inspiring people under new conditions to create the next success. If you don’t lead it, you abandon everyone in the chaos of change. Step up, inspire, discover your influence, and lead change.

  13. My teams know I appreciate them. I don’t have to say it. Showing appreciation is not an update to communicate the unknown. It is the oxygen that keeps people going in good times and bad. Develop some leadership self-awareness around your attitude toward showing appreciation. Otherwise you bequeath a culture of under-appreciated employees and their less then stellar performance.






Denial is not a success strategy. Escape from the lies that keep your organization in the shadows.




Your turn. What lies would you add to this list?



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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Are You An Annoying Maverick or Team Player?

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Leadership Humility is This Week’s Chat Topic!

WHEN/WHERE: Join us Sunday Nov. 23, 2014 on Twitter at 10AM ET. Hashtag: #peopleskills


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Leadership Humility: Strength or Weakness?

Picture humble leaders. What do you see? What are they doing? Would you want to work with them? Join us Sunday Nov. 23rd 10am ET to share your personal perspective and deeper view of leadership humility.

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Leadership Humility: A Deeper View

Despite shifts in the definition of leadership, leadership humility is still widely debated. Does it come across as weak? Does it breed less or more business success? Do all people respect a humble leader?

Some questions to get us thinking in advance:

  • Leadership Humility: Clear connection or oxymoron?
  • Can humble people show their greatness to get promoted?
  • What is the underlying logic of leadership humility?
  • Does humility evoke trust or suspicion from other people? Why?
  • Is humility a part of great leadership? Why don’t we see more of it?
  • How do humble leaders behave?
  • How does leadership humility affect employee engagement?
  • Who produces more leaders – humble leaders or non-humble leaders? Why?
  • Is leadership humility more common in some cultures than in others?
  • How can people skills show humility in a positive light?

These are just some questions to get us thinking. Actual questions will post live during the chat.



So bring your desire to help our youth, your experience, a beverage, and join the community on Sunday Nov. 23, 10am ET in People Skills Chat on Twitter (hashtag: #peopleskills). Let’s dig into leadership humility more deeply and see what we discover and learn from each other.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining the Google+ People Skills Community, The Facebook Group People Skills That Really Matter and the LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to be a part of all the people skills discussions everyday 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Out of Gratitude

My gratitude to all who participate and grow the people skills global community on Twitter (#peopleskills), Google+, LinkedIn, and Facebook. We welcome your suggestions for topics, offers to co-host, and most especially your diverse insights.

Continued thanks to generous chat moderators Chantal Bechervaise, Dave Moore, Hoda Maalouf, Tracy Shroyer and Tom Rhodes for their time and contributions.






Hope you will all join our People Skills Chat on Twitter (#peopleskills) this Sunday Nov. 23, 2014, 10am ET/7am PT to share your insights and perspective on leadership humility.

Everyone is welcome! We have only one rule in People Skills Global Chat: Respect for all even when we disagree.






TIP: If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Tweetchat.com, or Twubs.com and enter hashtag #peopleskills. Sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Tchat.io, Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Connect with you this Sun. Nov. 23, 2014, in global #peopleskills Twitter chat 10am EST to explore leadership humility.


Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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Two Magical Words That Expand and Improve Interactions


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As you read the title of this post, you might immediately think of please and thank you as the two magical words for great people skills.  While they are critical for positive interactions, there are two magical words that supersede them by having an impact from just thinking them!

What do you think the two magical words are?


Click to reveal the two magical words their impact on teamwork, collaboration, and innovation.



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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Collaboration: It Can Be Strong or Fragile


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Collaboration can expand everyone’s greatness when everyone seeks opportunities — not just opportunistic moments to meet their own needs. Whether an entrepreneur, a legislator, a corporate leader, a team member, an educator, a student, or a non-profit volunteer – we all reap the benefits of collaboration when we contribute at least as much we take.

Collaboration: What Does It Really Take?

Collaboration is powerful mechanism for success. It requires:

  • Respect for everyone
  • Building and honoring trust
  • Confidence in yourself and others
  • Belief that interdependence is better than total independence
  • Emotional intelligence – awareness of others’ needs
  • Giving as much or more than we take



Opportunists betray the trust through hidden agendas and manipulation. They build their own success while only seeming to help others. On the surface it appears to be collaboration. When we look deeper we see the superficiality.



Tune Up Your Radar to Spot Opportunists

It is the pattern of behavior that defines an opportunist — not any one moment.

Collaboration: Opportunity not Opportunists Image by:Peyri


Opportunists in a work setting or on social media …

  1. Give half-baked praise of others’ contributions.
  2. Compliment people personally while ignoring their professional work.
  3. Give partial answers to seem collaborative yet withhold knowledge.
  4. Sometimes take credit for others’ thoughts and ideas.
  5. Want people’s contributions with minimal investment of their own time.
  6. Treat others well when people are helping them and pull away when asked for their knowledge and experience.
  7. Accept help from authentic collaborators but contribute the minimum in return.


In social media networking, we can of course turn and walk away from opportunists. In a work setting, it’s not always possible. Opportunistic behavior then plants roots of mistrust. It changes the dynamic in sometimes unidentifiable ways. Those who collaborate and help others feel the foolish sting of being used. They sometimes become guarded and less collaborative.


Preserve the Purity of Collaboration

As a leader, you know that something has changed but you’re not sure what or why. Yet you see the loss of trust and its damaging effects on collaboration.

  • Start discussions on the expectations of collaboration. Shine a light on the topic with teams and ad hoc project teams.
  • Have everyone define the difference between a collaborator and an opportunist.  Of course make sure you are the former!  Build a culture of collaboration through initial discussions, modeling the behavior, monitoring progress, and making changes.
  • Give yourself and everyone the OK to be on the lookout for opportunistic behavior. It doesn’t mean you are a cynic. You can collaborate as an optimistic realist and keep your radar tuned for signals. Raise the warning flag and speak with those whose behaviors are opportunistic. What are their goals? Why are they acting this way? Reconfirm what is expected for collaboration.
  • Remove opportunists if they are unwilling to truly collaborate.  Some leaders find this difficult if the opportunists are very knowledgeable. Yet if you reward individuals who won’t collaborate, your message to collaborators is clear.








Life is learning so learn from it. Learn the signals to avoid being stung again. You will build inner strength to recover from bad times. Then go forward with renewed confidence and create success with authentic collaborators. There’s lots of them and you will find them!


How do you stay positive after being stung?

For me, it’s seeing & living an abundance mentality.



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Posts:
Teamwork Collaboration: Leadership Beliefs That Kill It
Leaders, Collaborators Are Stronger Than You Think
10 Mature Ways to Work w/ Immature Teammates

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Customer Experience Beliefs: 11 to Win Over Customers


If we want our customers to have a superior customer experience, we need to examine our customer experience beliefs. What we think affects what we do. This is true in every aspect of business. With customers, it’s even more important.


Customer Experience Beliefs: Image is the neon sign "belief".

11 Winning Customer Experience Beliefs. Image by Steve Rhodes via Flickr Creative Commons License.

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11 Surefire Customer Experience Beliefs

  1. Customers cannot observe our intentions. Treat them well.

  2. The customer’s voice echoes forever. Of course they talk about us. What they say is actually up to us.

  3. Persist when you sense potential; shift and innovate when you see futility. Never let frustration with a customer stop you from giving great care and finding a solution!

  4. Make customer experience easy! Count the number of hoops you ask customers to jump through & you’ll find the places they may jump ship! Leave the hoops for basketball.

  5. Courtesy and civility do not undo our authenticity. They allow the customers to easily embrace it. Authenticity is not an excuse for being blunt or rude to customers. A smile can change everything.

  6. A customer’s trust is an invitation for a human bond. Our actions RSVP the truth about our integrity and foretell the customer’s next choice.


  7. There is a difference between service and servitude. The first you choose; the second you don’t. What choice will you make to deliver superior customer experience?

  8. A sincere apology is the quickest way to repave the road of customer trust. Waffling, defending, and delay leaves a trail of mistrust.

  9. Our future is behind every customer. The customer is the heart of our success. Their pulse is our vital sign. It beats for our future. Maintain heart health!

  10. When we hold resentment in our hearts, we deliver far below our capabilities. Learn objective caring to prevent taking customers’ criticisms personally.

  11. Choose to trust until there’s proof to mistrust. Check all your processes, procedures, and touch points. Do they communicate trust or mistrust of the customer? Then ask yourselves, if you were the customers, would you feel welcome?



Are your customer experience beliefs serving or sabotaging superior customer experience? Leaders, do you know what your teams think? Sit with them and ask “What are our customer experience beliefs?” You may be pleasantly surprised or jolted by the silence. In either case, this review is a no cost high return step to superior customer experience!


What winning customer experience beliefs would you add to this list?


From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Post:
5 Powerful Beliefs to Win Over Rude or Angry Customers
Irresistible Customer Experience: What Every Customer Wants

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Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.

 

 

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Developing Workplace People Skills in School is This Week’s Chat Topic!

WHEN/WHERE: Join us Sunday Nov. 16, 2014 on Twitter at 10AM ET. Hashtag: #peopleskills


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Developing Workplace People Skills in School

When you first entered the workforce, what did you wish you had learned in school? Join us Sunday Nov. 16th 10am ET to share your practical experience and insight with today’s youth and young workers?



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Developing Workplace People Skills in School

When you’re in school, you don’t often think about what you’ll need to survive and thrive at work. As I listen to today’s young workers, I hear their surprise over what it takes to get a job and succeed in it. So we take a new step forward in people skills chat by looking back at what we wish we had learned before work.

Some questions to get us thinking in advance:

  • When you started work, what did you wish you *had already learned growing up?
  • How did you feel without that knowledge/skills?
  • How can today’s youth and young adults expand their horizons to be better prepared for work?
  • How does society help or hinder the development of great people skills?
  • Should educators play a more significant role in developing workplace people skills?
  • Dear educators, please teach ______________ for success at work.
  • How can business leaders/owners and educators work more closely to better educate youth and teens for work?
  • How can we as a society awaken a thirst for learning that will feed workplace success?
  • Teamwork & collaboration: How can this be fostered before entering the workforce?
  • What #peopleskills could those in the workplace learn from today’s youth?

These are just some questions to get us thinking. Actual questions will post live during the chat.



So bring your desire to help our youth, your experience, a beverage, and join the community on Sunday Nov. 16, 10am ET in People Skills Chat on Twitter (hashtag: #peopleskills). Let’s share all we know and learn even more on developing workplace people skills in school.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining the Google+ People Skills Community, The Facebook Group People Skills That Really Matter and the LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to be a part of all the people skills discussions everyday 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Out of Gratitude

My gratitude to all who participate and grow the people skills global community on Twitter (#peopleskills), Google+, LinkedIn, and Facebook. We welcome your suggestions for topics, offers to co-host, and most especially your diverse insights.

Continued thanks to generous chat moderators Chantal Bechervaise, Dave Moore, Hoda Maalouf, Tracy Shroyer and Tom Rhodes for their time and contributions.






Hope you will all join our People Skills Chat on Twitter (#peopleskills) this Sunday Nov. 16, 2014, 10am ET/7am PT to share your insights, perspective, and experience on developing workplace people skills in school.

Everyone is welcome! We have only one rule in People Skills Global Chat: Respect for all even when we disagree.






TIP: If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Tweetchat.com, or Twubs.com and enter hashtag #peopleskills. Sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Tchat.io, Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Connect with you this Sun. Nov. 16, 2014, in global #peopleskills Twitter chat 10am EST to explore developing workplace people skills in school.


Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

©2014 Kate Nasser, CAS, Inc. Somerville, NJ. I appreciate your sharing the link to this post on your social streams. However, if you want to re-post or republish the content of this post, please email info@katenasser.com for permission and guidelines. Thank you for respecting intellectual capital.


Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.

 

 

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Employee Appreciation: 3 Ways to Get It!

Do you feel unappreciated at work? That doesn’t mean people don’t appreciate you. It means they aren’t expressing appreciation to you.


It’s an important distinction. If you believe others don’t appreciate you, you can lose motivation. You can start to question your worth at work. You might even spiral into negativity that hurts other parts of your life. STOP!


Employee appreciation: Image is the word Resilience

Employee Appreciation: Be a Buoy to Be Appreciated. Image by Sweet Dreamz Design via Flickr.

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You can stay resilient. Simply learn these things about employee appreciation:

  • When people are most likely to express it
  • What stops them from expressing it
  • How to get more of it at work!



Employee Appreciation: When Do Leaders Express It

For many leaders, appreciation is an emotional response. They don’t show employee appreciation for tasks completed. They appreciate you when your actions fill their voids.

People express appreciation when you help them advance or ease their pain — when you are their buoy!



Leaders give appreciation when they have a need that you fill. Why? Because it is at that point they are aware of their vulnerability. They feel the need keenly enough to show employee appreciation. To get appreciation at work, be a buoy of resilience for others.


Employee Appreciation: 9 Reasons Leaders Don’t Show It

  1. Some people are very uncomfortable expressing positive emotion until your caring actions move them beyond their discomfort.
  2. Some leaders were mentored by leaders who thought emotion was unproductive. They live what they were taught.
  3. The organizational culture is not one of gratitude.
  4. Some leaders live by the old rule: No news is good news. They believe you are being paid to do a job.
  5. They believe that you know you are appreciated because you were hired.
  6. Your leader may be a high introvert who keeps much inside.
  7. Their leader doesn’t express appreciation to them and thus they have no motivation to show appreciation to you.
  8. Some people are intrinsically motivated and need little appreciation. They assume everyone is like them.
  9. Leaders who are high drivers focus on end results to the exclusion of everything else.


Employee Appreciation: 3 Ways to Get It!

Use your natural talents and interests to do for others what they can’t or don’t like to do.

  • Complete your boss. An executive admin reported to me that her boss hates to write. She loves to write. He gives her his key thoughts and she writes the document or presentation. He appreciates it and says so! She is his buoy!

  • Lift up your teammate. Teammates empathized with a teammate struggling with a serious personal life issue and filled the void when that teammate was not at work. They buoyed their teammate. The teammate expressed sincere appreciation.

  • Share your talents regardless of your title. One woman reported she is always good in a crisis. She’s a pressure player as the old saying goes. Now people turn to her at crunch time. She is a buoy! She receives appreciation at work for this even though she is not the official leader.



During a recent keynote, I said…

Instead of seeking appreciation for your job tasks, get appreciated for your natural talents.

Someone answered … That still means they don’t value our job function.

I replied: Job functions become extinct. Your talents don’t and won’t. Buoy people with your talents and you will get appreciation.

Appreciation at Work: Image is a quote value of working together.

Career Appreciation: Be a Buoy to Be More Appreciated at Work




It’s far better to rely on your talents to be appreciated than on a job function whose value changes with time.


Be a buoy. Support others. Make them resilient. Keep them afloat. Fill the void with your talents. This is how you will get appreciation at work.



Which talents do others appreciate in you?



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™


Related Posts:
25 Incredible Talents That Get Appreciated at Work
Leaders, Employee Engagement is Uniquely Personal

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Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.

 

 

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Caring Words: No Cost & High Return in Business


Caring Words Cost Nothing: Image is a poster with those words.

Caring Words Cost Nothing. Image by Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™




Don’t mistake caring words in business as weak, risky, or beating around the bush. Caring words cost nothing and create infinite possibilities. Their power comes in what they do and don’t do.

Caring words & caring tone of voice …

  • Build trust.
  • Develop relationships between strangers.
  • Open closed minds with empathy & trust.
  • Strengthen relationships to ride through storms together.




Caring words & caring tone of voice don’t …

  • Insert scars into important business agendas.
  • Trigger defensiveness that slows down success.
  • Foment resentment that overshadows the true business purpose.
  • Create walls that obstruct & maybe doom future opportunities.




Caring words & caring tone of voice are emotional intelligence in action.

  • They are based on respect for all humans even in disagreement.
  • They require a positive self-image that doesn’t preach to others.
  • They call for a courageous choice of giving before you receive anything.


“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; deeply loving someone gives you courage.” ~Lao Tzu via Goodreads Quotes


“Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.” ~Mother Teresa via Goodreads Quotes


Leaders, use caring words and tone to inspire, engage, and buoy employees! Hire employees with the emotional intelligence and desire to care for others. Teamwork and collaboration ascend to new heights. Customer experience soars to loyalty.



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Posts:
People Skills Missteps: Not So Friendly, Friendly Advice
3 Steps to Overcome Bias in Business
Emotionally Intelligent Teamwork: 10 Ways to Work w/ Immature Teammates

©2014 Kate Nasser, CAS, Inc. Somerville, NJ. I appreciate your sharing the link to this post on your social streams. However, if you want to re-post or republish the content of this post, please email info@katenasser.com for permission and guidelines. Thank you for respecting intellectual capital.


Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.

 

 

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Handling Immature Teammates, Bosses, and Family is this week’s chat topic.

WHEN/WHERE: Join us Sunday Nov. 9, 2014 on Twitter at 10AM EST. Hashtag: #peopleskills


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Handling Immature Teammates, Bosses, & Family

People develop different levels of emotional intelligence and maturity. What happens when you must interact with people less mature than you?



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Handling Immature Teammates, Bosses, and Family!

Handling immature teammates and bosses — not to mention family — presents some special challenges. JOIN us Sunday 10am EST in #peopleskills global Twitter chat to share ideas and tips on this universal predicament.

Some questions to get us thinking in advance:

  • How do you define immaturity? Is it purely a matter of comparison?
  • What are some mature people skills behaviors and what does it feel like to be mature?
  • What emotions and conditions trigger immature behavior?
  • How is immaturity different from free spirited fun?
  • Is maturity a straight line path of growth or does it come and go?
  • Which immature behaviors undermine teamwork?
  • How would you respond to immature teammate behavior?
  • How do immature bosses/leaders behave & how do they impact those they lead?
  • What can employees do to help their boss/leader mature?
  • How do great people skills help you respond maturely to immature behavior?

These are just some questions to get us thinking. Actual questions will post live during the chat.



So bring your personal perspective, your experience, a beverage, and join the community on Sunday Nov. 9, 10am EST in People Skills Chat on Twitter (hashtag: #peopleskills). Share your experience, insight, and perspective on handling immature teammates, bosses and family.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining the Google+ People Skills Community, The Facebook Group People Skills That Really Matter and the LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to be a part of all the people skills discussions everyday 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Out of Gratitude

My gratitude to all who participate and grow the people skills global community on Twitter (#peopleskills), Google+, LinkedIn, and Facebook. We welcome your suggestions for topics, offers to co-host, and most especially your diverse insights.

Continued thanks to generous chat moderators Chantal Bechervaise, Dave Moore, Hoda Maalouf, Tracy Shroyer and Tom Rhodes for their time and contributions.






Hope you will all join our People Skills Chat on Twitter (#peopleskills) this Sunday Nov. 9, 2014, 10am EST/7am PST to share your insights, perspective, and experience on handling immature teammates, bosses, and family.

Everyone is welcome! We have only one rule in People Skills Global Chat: Respect for all even when we disagree.






TIP: If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Tweetchat.com, or Twubs.com and enter hashtag #peopleskills. Sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Tchat.io, Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Connect with you this Sun. Nov. 9, 2014, 10am EST to explore handling immature teammates in our #Peopleskills Global Twitter Chat.

Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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Empathy & Humility: The Powerful Response to Bias


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Empathy and Humility: The Perfect Response to Bias

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When others’ bias threatens to block you, you can tell them off, walk away, or use empathy and humility to overcome their narrow mindedness. Empathy and humility is the place to start. You can always walk away later if you find people’s minds are sealed shut.



Empathy and humility can …

  • Reduce the fears that create the bias
  • Open the mind to a new view of the issue
  • Chip away at the comfort of the status quo and spur learning
  • Give you possibilities that outbursts or walking away can’t or won’t



Empathy and Humility: 3 Responses to Overcome Bias

As I reflected on moments when people were biased against me, I realized that I instinctively used empathy and humility. I was rewarded with positive results.

  1. Can a woman do this job? I was doing subcontracts for other consulting firms. One submitted my name to their client — a Fortune 500 corporation — to teach the new workshop on sales and consulting skills. At that point all the instructors were men. The corporate contact replied: A woman? The owner of the consulting firm relayed that reply to me and then asked me how he should reply. In fact he said to me, “I figured you faced this all the time and have some special way of replying.”

    I could have ripped all of them apart for their chauvinistic bias. Instead, I heard their fear of change. I put myself in their shoes and in the shoes of the women who would be taking the workshop. I replied: “If there will be women taking the workshop, they will benefit from knowing and seeing a woman do the sales and consulting job the corporation wants them to do.” Empathy and humility hit the mark. They immediately said yes.


  2. Why do we need someone from the USA to do this? The first time I went to Canada to teach customer service, the customs officer at the airport asked me why I was there. When I told him why, he forcefully said: “Will you please tell me why we need someone from the USA to teach customer service instead of an expert right here in Canada?”

    This was not the time to sing my own praises. It would have simply intensified his resistance. I replied: “90% of their customers are Americans. Who better to teach them how to deal with Americans, than an American?” He smiled, wished me well, and allowed me to pass. Empathy and humility opened the door to his comfort and my success.


  3. We don’t need you or this change. When leaders bring in consultants to foster change, team members sometimes resist the change by mislabeling us as uninformed outsiders. In these moments, empathy and humility overcome the bias by fostering learning and understanding.

    I ask them questions to understand their perspective. I offer examples of how things can be better. This empathy doesn’t stop the change; it helps team members to move it forward. The humility removes the power struggle and powers up the change.



Could a greater miracle take place than to look through each other’s eyes for an instant. ~Thoreau


When the deck seems stacked against you, remember the power of empathy and humility. As you step out of your own feelings of outrage and see into others’ minds, you may well find the connection to overcome their bias. As empathy makes the connection that reduces fear, humility elevates a shared purpose above their personal misgivings.



When has empathy and humility helped you overcome bias?


From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Posts:
When Tough Leaders Show Empathy
Leadership: Never Confuse Humility w/ Humiliation
What’s So Hot About Humility Anyway?

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Bluntness Bombs Out: Here’s Why!

As The People Skills Coach™, I often coach leaders, managers, and technical professionals on steps to move from bluntness to helpful honesty. For people who are inspired by logic to change their behavior, here are 6 smart logical reasons why bluntness bombs out.


Bluntness: Image is sign that says Logic Lane.

Bluntness Bombs Out for 6 Logical People Skills Reasons Image by:Rupert Brun

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6 Logical People Skills Reasons Bluntness Bombs Out


  1. No Warm-Up. Picture your bluntness as very cold water. If you push someone into a cold swimming pool, they remember the shock. If you let them wade in, they adjust to the temperature and function well. If you want people to hear and embrace your message, don’t shock them with bluntness.

  2. Punching Dulls the Brain. Punching bags are not known for their performance. They hang and swing. If you are blunt to effect a change, those you verbally punch may swing away from you. They are not likely to understand your message or change behavior.

  3. Bluntness builds barriers. Communication is for connection. Bluntness can create a busy signal — a barrier — between communicator and listener. If someone isn’t listening, your message essentially bombs out.

  4. Bluntness undermines respect and credibility. The strength of the message is weakened by the rudeness of the approach. Who is going to respect and believe the message delivered by a blunt oaf?

  5. Bluntness breaks bonds. Most people aren’t hermits. They interact and build bonds with others to survive and thrive. Bluntness may get your words out but it bombs out by breaking important bonds. It may even create vengeful feelings and start a verbal war.

  6. Bluntness focuses on your needs and overlooks others. It screams selfishness. It lacks emotional intelligence. It’s no wonder that bluntness turns others off.



Many leaders resort to bluntness out of frustration. When diplomatic honesty doesn’t seem to be working, they swing over to bluntness. Others resort to bluntness when they lose patience with those who don’t seem to understand their message or won’t listen.

Yet when you reach the end of your rope, why cut it with bluntness? Unless you need to use bluntness to save a life or prevent death, hold on to the rope!

Take a moment and tap your intellect, logic, and people skills to find a way to communicate with honesty and respect. It’s far more effective than bluntness.



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Post:
Reduce Conflict: Hear the Urgency Before the Yell
6 Key Reasons Executives Get Annoyed w/ You

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People Skills for Trust is Sunday’s #Peopleskills Twitter Chat.

WHEN/WHERE: Join us Sunday Nov. 2, 2014 on Twitter at 10AM EST. Hashtag: #peopleskills


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People Skills for Trust

Trust is a deep and complex subject. It is in every relationship from business to personal. For this reason, we will explore people skills for trust in this Sunday’s #peopleskills global Twitter chat at 10am EST.



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People Skills for Trust

JOIN us Sunday 10am EST in #peopleskills Twitter chat to help dig into and unravel the complexities of trust. My co-host for this topic is Andrea Sanchez. Andrea is a writer/editor with 16 years of communications experience. Her passion is leadership and emotional intelligence. She is the host of the new leadership Twitter chat #DareToBe.

Some questions to get us thinking in advance:

  • What is your definition of trust and what does it mean to you?
  • How do you know if you can trust someone?
  • Does it take courage to trust others or only to “re-trust” them?
  • How do empathy and trust relate?
  • What increases and what destroys our ability to trust?
  • How does confidence impact trust?
  • How can leaders build trust with their teams?
  • When is trust most important to you?
  • How does the propensity to trust change as we mature?
  • How do #peopleskills impact trust?

These are just some questions to get us thinking. Actual questions will post live during the chat.



So bring your personal perspective, your experience, a beverage, and join the community on Sunday Nov. 2, 10am EST in People Skills Chat on Twitter (hashtag: #peopleskills). Share your experience, insight, and perspective on people skills for trust.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining the Google+ People Skills Community, The Facebook Group People Skills That Really Matter and the LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to be a part of all the people skills discussions everyday 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Out of Gratitude

My gratitude to all who participate and grow the people skills global community on Twitter (#peopleskills), Google+, LinkedIn, and Facebook. We welcome your suggestions for topics, offers to co-host, and most especially your diverse insights.

Thank you to my co-host for this topic Andrea Sanchez. Continued thanks to generous chat moderators Chantal Bechervaise, Dave Moore, Hoda Maalouf, Tracy Shroyer and Tom Rhodes for their time and contributions.






Hope you will all join our People Skills Chat on Twitter (#peopleskills) this Sunday Nov. 2, 2014, 10am EST/7am PST to share your insights, perspective, and experience on people skills for trust.

Everyone is welcome! We have only one rule in People Skills Global Chat: Respect for all even when we disagree.






TIP: If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Tweetchat.com, or Twubs.com and enter hashtag #peopleskills. Sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Tchat.io, Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Connect with you this Sun. Nov. 2, 2014, 10am EST for people skills for trust in our #Peopleskills Global Twitter Chat.

Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!

 

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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Change Leadership Beliefs: The Ones That Stop Change & Growth


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Change starts in the mind. Beliefs can drive it or block it. When change is your goal, change leadership beliefs or you’ll change nothing.

Change Leadership Beliefs: Especially These Three

  1. If you can’t measure it, it doesn’t exist. This belief, valuable in scientific research, is often misapplied to the business world. When you demand data to prove in advance that the change will work, little will change. In business, very little is absolute and perfect. Replace leadership beliefs which demand a guarantee with insights on how to minimize risks.


  2. We can’t inspire people to do non-status jobs better. Story: A leader asked me to help him address the issue of performance of the customer service teams. I assured him that I could inspire and train the team members to deliver professional quality customer service. When he replied, “Well, I don’t think anyone would ever consider customer service a profession — I certainly wouldn’t”, he revealed a big part of the problem — his beliefs. If the leaders doesn’t believe change is possible why should the teams?

    Teams can sense how a leader views them and their jobs. Change leadership beliefs to inspire excellent performance. Leaders who inspire pride and commitment, foster a culture of excellence.



  3. There is no I in team. This old chestnut worked well when good leadership was defined as command and control and most workers were Baby Boomers or the WWII Silent Generation who raised them. Life was about sacrifice and duty. Today, to inspire employees to engage and create change, recognize and appreciate individual talents that unite for great results.

    Change leadership beliefs about teamwork and you ignite greatness in the teams you lead.





Leaders, How to Get Started to Change Leadership Beliefs

  • With your teams, outline and discuss the change needed.
  • Have the teams create a list of the beliefs they think you have that help or hinder the change.
  • While they do that, write down the beliefs you hold about the change.

As you compare your list to theirs, a road map to change leadership beliefs will emerge. This simple exercise has helped countless leaders create change. It also increases employee engagement and openness between leaders and teams.



Your Turn: What other leadership beliefs must change to spur change & growth in business today?

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Posts:
Are Your Leadership Beliefs Killing Teamwork & Collaboration?
Leading Change: Is the Beloved Bully Stopping You?
Leadership People Skills: 5 Essentials to Spark Team Agility
Leaders, Are You Needlessly Sacrificing Great Results?

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Prevent the Negative Effects of Being Too Positive!


Is your positive attitude helping yourself and others? It often can. Yet, have you ever met someone who overlooks empathy and drives their positive attitude on others?

When extremely positive people don’t account for others’ needs, their positive outlook can backfire.  They can come across as patronizing, controlling, and oddly enough, insensitive.


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5 Ways to Prevent the Negative Effects of Being Positive

I have a very positive attitude about life and deliver inspirational keynotes to lift others up. I have also met people who try to convert me to their version of optimism before seeing how positive I already am!  This turns me off to what they have to offer.


To prevent this misstep …

  1. Listen in the moment and understand others’ perspectives.  Listening builds trust through respect of others’ needs.  Sometimes people are so busy encouraging others to be positive they don’t stop and detect what others need at that moment.  Everyone is on a journey and they travel at different speeds.   Some get to a positive attitude faster than others.  Some don’t even want to go there.  

    Exception: If you are a leading an organization through change and a true resistor is slowing the pace with negativity, you will need to address that very clearly to ensure the momentum of change.


  2. Acknowledge and empathize.  Empathy doesn’t mean you agree. It means you matter, we matter this matters. Connect with empathy to build the trust needed to influence others.

  3. Coach only when asked.  In everyday life, don’t elect yourself someone else’s life coach.  Even positive words like “I would like to encourage you to …” are somewhat arrogant if the person didn’t ask for your help.   Live and enjoy your own positive attitude but don’t declare yourself Ruler of PositiveLand and issue decrees.  You may become known as a royal pain in the tail.

  4. Blend optimism with realism. It opens the door to empathy and builds credibility. It is much easier to connect and trust someone who has their feet on the ground as they reach for the stars.

  5. Disagree honestly and with respect. Become comfortable with honest respectful disagreement.  People disagree in life.  Working through disagreements often delivers great results.  Yet sometimes extremely positive people patronize during a disagreement because they seek immediate harmony.  Disagreement can be a positive if it is done respectfully.




Live positively and let others see your optimism and positive choices. Blend it with empathy and realism and you ascend to trust, respect, and the long reach of influence.


From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Posts:
Leadership Optimism: Keeping It Real
When Strong Leaders Use Empathy

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Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.

 

 

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Emotionally Intelligent Teamwork: 10 Ways to Work With Immature Teammates


Is it possible work well with immature teammates when you have developed your emotional intelligence? Yes.

It may not be as enjoyable as working with emotionally intelligent teammates. However, it’s very possible!


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10 Steps for Emotionally Intelligent Teamwork w/ Less Intelligent Teammates

Most everyone agrees that emotionally intelligent teammates produce better than immature staff who squabble, waffle, and veer off course. It’s also true that teams often have some less emotionally unintelligent team members.

As the goals and deadlines loom, your emotional intelligence can help everyone reach success.



  1. Spot emotionally unintelligent teammates early on. Use your emotional intelligence to spot annoying behavior for what it is. With your positive energy, you will inspire productive teamwork instead of being trapped in annoyance.

  2. Step forward with calm confidence. With your calm confidence, you can accomplish much with immature teammates. They will be drawn to you as a pillar of support.

  3. Influence everyone with your emotionally intelligent humility. Respond to overactive egos with the strength of humility. It flows with quiet power to reach any goal. It smooths resistance. It cuts through immature egos without threatening them. Humility builds trust through its selfless giving. With that influence, you and the team can accomplish anything.

  4. Listen beyond your boundaries. Go beyond your reactions to teammates’ immaturity and listen to draw people magically together. Listening builds understanding. It reduces gaps to accomplish the impossible.

  5. Tune into human needs. Be aware of what immature teammates need to feel secure. Offer empathy, validation, and support. You free them from the emotional needs that trap them and then they contribute to the team. This is not the same thing as fake schmoozing. When your heart cares, your behavior is authentic.

  6. Let your leadership shine. As odd as it sounds, your immature teammates give you many chances to lead. Great leaders don’t drown around people who have less ability. They lead them. Do it happily.

  7. Be realistic. Expect the immaturity and celebrate the growth. Once you spot teammates’ weaknesses, don’t waste your time hoping they will change immediately. Live life as it is not as you think it should be. As they evolve, celebrate their growth.

  8. Be very grateful for your emotional intelligence. It gives you much success and happiness. When you meet immature teammates, be grateful for the maturity you’ve developed. Gratitude keeps your emotional intelligence alive and active. Share your gift!


  9. Set limits intelligently. For example, if a teammate’s immaturity shows you great disrespect, ask for basic human respect: “I would like simple respect. I give it to you and I would like it in return.” Respect is the basis for trust and teamwork. Bring the issue to the table. They may get defensive at first. Eventually, they will see the fairness in it and respond appropriately. By communicating your needs, you give them a chance to evolve.

  10. Buoy yourself. Associate with other emotionally intelligent people. Working with immature teammates can be taxing. Recharge your batteries, inside and outside of work, with others who are as capable as you. Refueling keeps everyone evolving, energized, and working at peak performance.






Let your emotional intelligence shine and elevate the team. Your generosity will come back to you tenfold.



How has your emotional intelligence helped your teammates?



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Posts:

5 Steps to Develop Emotional Intelligence
Positive Attitudes for Dealing With Toxic Leaders

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