Collaborative People Skills: Share Your Energy Not Your Nerves

Collaborative People Skills: Manage Your Energy

One of the important collaborative people skills is managing and blending our energy with others. Collaboration happens not only on structured teams but also on ad hoc teams where people don’t know each other as well. In these moments, others might see our unchecked energy as annoying nervousness or a desire to dominate.



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Collaborative People Skills: Share Your Energy Not Your Nerves

To avoid having your energy seen as uncontrolled nerves or dominance:

  • Know your own personality type and adapt to others. Every type, drivers, analystics, expressives, and amiables can run over the others with extreme behaviors.

  • Understand the collaborative goals and work toward them. If you step out too far ahead and act independently, others may label you as non-collaborative and seeking dominance. Collaborative people skills are the tools to showing initiative while collaborating.

  • Clarify what you don’t understand before you act. Rushing ahead, taking action, and then asking why and how, make you seem nervous, erratic, and a royal pain to work with. Your collaborators don’t want to chase a runaway train i.e. you.

  • Communicate don’t dump. Lack of communication will earn you the label of maverick lone wolf. Certainly not a collaborator. Likewise, too much talking and not enough listening will seem like nervous dumping. Collaborative people skills hinge on great communication skills: listening, paraphrasing, questioning, and speaking. TIP: Ask yourself, am I inviting other’s ideas or simply telling them mine?

  • Be self-aware. If you have very high energy, tell collaborators at the start. Give them permission to tell you if your energy runneth over. Adapt at that point, learn from it, and moderate going forward.


The common element to these collaborative people skills steps is respect for differences. It all flows from the belief that collaborating takes you further than going it alone. To live that belief, manage and blend your energy with others.




Are you high energy? How do you manage it when collaborating?




P.S. I am preparing a follow-up post about how to manage a super high energy teammate! Happy to include your suggestions.


From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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2 Responses to “Collaborative People Skills: Share Your Energy Not Your Nerves”

  1. Nice write up. Being able to work in a team is important.

    • Kate Nasser says:

      Many thanks Kelechi. I have seen good people w/ the best of intentions to collaborate turn everyone else off because they didn’t moderate their energy level. Glad you found this post valuable.

      Honored thanks,
      Kate

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