Confidence Beats Disdain Every Time | #Success #PeopleSkills

Confidence beats disdain because it models a better way.

When you meet disdain, don’t cower. Don’t yield. Don’t embrace the scornful put down. People disdain others to hide from their own insecurities. Yielding to them doesn’t help them grow. It keeps them stuck and reinforces their behavior. Show them your confident self-love and ask them to join you there.

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Confidence Beats Disdain Every Time. Image by Vic via Flickr Creative Commons License.

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Confidence Beats Disdain Every Time

To be clear, we are talking here about self-confidence not egotistical arrogance. Arrogance is thinking you are always right. Confidence is a truthful belief in your own value.


Arrogance often leads to disdaining others. Disdain sounds like: “Is that all you can do? Why do you keep making stupid mistakes? It’s so much better when you are not here. You aren’t worth it.”




When you reject other’s disdain, you …

  • Model and mentor self-love.
  • Propel your growth and sustain your morale.
  • Create valuable interactions that create mutual success.



If your leaders/managers disdain you with negative put downs …

  • Tell them you always grow from positive suggestions.
  • Ask them for specific changes they want to see.
  • Change jobs to work with leaders/managers who don’t show disdain.


Whether the disdain is coming from a family member, spouse, friend, colleague, boss, or teammate, it does no good. Reject the disdain. Let them know that you like who you are and grow everyday. Unless it’s your boss, invite them to do the same. Confidence beats disdain with the shining beam of self-love.



When you witness disdain of others, how can you help them?

When someone is disdaining you, what do you say to show confidence?



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.


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