Customer Service Incompetence: Empathy Only For Tears

Customer Service Incompetence: Empathy Only When Customers Cry

How often do you receive empathy when you are the customer? Often enough? Or do you encounter insensitivity and customer service incompetence? As The People Skills Coach™, I witness insensitivity until the customer is brought to tears. The question is why does it take tears to get empathy?



Customer Service Incompetence: Image is a tear from someone's eye.

Customer Service Incompetence: Empathy Only When Customers Cry. Image by Aldo van Zeeland.

Image by Aldo VanZeeland.


Customer Service Incompetence: Empathy Only for Customer Tears

Being able to empathize with customers is an essential part of great customer service. Empathy only when you see tears is customer service incompetence. You have left emotional scars. The damage to trust is done.

People Withhold Empathy Until They See Tears Because …

  • They are not listening to customer’s words and tone of voice. They are too busy reading from a script and stating procedures.
  • They feel overwhelmed by current work conditions. Instead of focusing on customer’s stress, they are focusing on their own.
  • Leadership has told them to enforce procedures. Leadership has failed to say that procedures are a guide not a big bat.
  • They don’t like themselves or their jobs. They are thinking of the customer as someone who makes their lives difficult.
  • They have low intuition and/or low emotional intelligence. It’s not until the customer becomes very upset that they see the human need.
  • Leadership has not trained staff in how to develop and show empathy. They think everyone knows how to do it. What great leaders know is that pressures can bury empathy if you don’t train everyone on how to keep it alive.


The list of reasons why employees don’t show empathy to customers doesn’t justify the insensitivity. Use the list to help everyone prevent this customer service incompetence and its aftermath. Use it in your organization to increase empathy and deliver the ultimate care and customer service.



Have you discussed empathy with your employees? I will help you keep it alive.



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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3 Responses to “Customer Service Incompetence: Empathy Only For Tears”

  1. Alli says:

    Spot on, Kate. Also, as a customer, it’s important to read this. Yes, we want and need great customer service but it can be helpful to see another perspective on what’s transpiring. Luckily, these are all fixable – hopefully before irreparable damage is done.

    Best,

    Alli

    • Kate Nasser says:

      Hi Alli,
      Many thanks for your addition to this discussion. My goal/hope is that reps and leaders read it and eliminate these missteps and delivery empathy every time. Although it can help customers to know there are reasons for reps insensitivity, it should never be the customer’s job to make reps feel better or excuse bad behavior.

      It’s important that leaders and reps know that showing empathy is a key part of giving great customer care.

      Best,
      Kate

  2. […] People Withhold Empathy Until They See Tears Because …They are not listening to customer’s words and tone of voice. They are too busy reading from a script and stating procedures.They feel overwhelmed by current work conditions. Instead of focusing on customer’s stress, they are focusing on their own.Leadership has told them to enforce procedures. Leadership has failed to say that procedures are a guide not a big bat.They don’t like themselves or their jobs. They are thinking of the customer as someone who makes their lives difficult.They have low intuition and/or low emotional intelligence. It’s not until the customer becomes very upset that they see the human need.Leadership has not trained staff in how to develop and show empathy. by Kate Nasser |  […]

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