Leadership: Never Confuse Humility and Humiliation
by Kate Nasser |
As I consult to strong leaders on employee engagement, some understand humility, its value, and use it well. Their emotional intelligence, not their directive strength, secures their leadership identity. They are comfortable with employee engagement for they see leaders and teams as interdependent.
Other leaders confuse humility and humiliation. Their view of leadership is all about their strength. As a result, they struggle with employee engagement and how to inspire teams to maximum achievement.
Humility in Leadership:
- Equalizes all on human qualities leading to tighter bonds.
- Propels everyone to learn from any mistakes leading to incredible growth.
- Elevates purpose above personal rallying all to organizational success.
- Celebrates all talents through inclusion inviting all to grow.
- Achieves more not less seeing more opportunities without the green eye of jealousy.
- Is the essence of truth and transparency leading to greater trust.
Humiliation, a loss of dignity and respect, is more likely to occur when leaders lack humility. Acting important and treating others with disregard creates disrespect in return. Constantly issuing orders can create a virtual mutiny which blocks success – a pretty humiliating event for business leaders.
Understanding the difference between humility and humiliation can move you forward to experience humility’s benefits. True humility sustains you and others. Humiliation destroys most in its path.
Humility is not:
- Silence. Humility engages everyone’s voice and magnifies success.
- Sheepishness. It strengthens the whole team and cultivates future leaders.
- A change in personality type. It is a core belief that drives your voice to just the right words at just the right time.
- Lack of confidence. In fact, the truly self-confident are more comfortable with being humble.
- Fake. Humility strips away the posturing of greatness and shines the light on your true leadership.
- Surrender. It is stronger than any yell for it replaces the ego — the target of conflict — with the “we go”.
- Abandonment. It is an engages all to learn and grow together.
Consider replacing the weak image of humility with a picture of its authentic strengths. Tapping others’ talents shows your confidence. Hearing others’ opinions expands your view. Celebrating the whole instead of yourself extends your reach.
You will not be abdicating your position to others. You will be growing your influence by engaging all to walk with you — instead of behind you.
When you combine humility with emotional intelligence, social intelligence, and proficient people-skills, the respect for your leadership soars.
You inspire all generations in the workplace to maximum contribution by fulfilling the most human need — to be included, recognized, acknowledged, and appreciated.
Have you ever worked for a humble leader? How did you feel? What was the outcome on the organization? From your perspective, are there any risks of a leader being humble?
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People-Skills Coach™
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Kate Nasser, The People-Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.