Super People Skills Mindset: 3 Basic Beliefs
by Kate Nasser |
For a super people skills mindset follows these 3 basic beliefs. Mindset affects our career and business success as our actions follow beliefs.
3 Basic Beliefs of a Super People Skills Mindset
As humans, we are equal.
This basic belief replaces statements that judge others with questions that explore their story.
People Skills Mindset Checkup: How often do you find yourself telling others what they should do? Adults pull away from those who want to rule over them; they collaborate and cooperate with those who want to travel with them!
Labels and categories capture confusion, not truth.
Life is fluid and ever changing. What we think we know about others changes as we listen and discover the truth in the bigger picture. Any label we use about people represents an incomplete picture i.e. existing confusion — not truth.
People Skills Mindset Checkup: Are you very uncomfortable with ambiguity in your life? You like things well defined and clear cut? If yes, ask yourself if you are putting people into categories to comfort yourself. If yes, it’s very likely you are also putting your professional possibilities in a box as well!
Respect is the oxygen of people skills success.
Words that minimize others do not secure success; they threaten it with the inevitable rebellion and conflict that will emerge — now or down the road. Mutual respect builds relationships, minimizes conflict, and dissolves resistance.
People Skills Mindset Checkup: Before you interact with someone else, admit your true motive to yourself. If you feel vengeful, embarrassed, angry, lonely, superior, or humiliated, your motive may be something other than shared a positive outcome. If you find yourself smirking inside before you speak, you are trading respect for a temporary feel good moment. The result is long-lasting mistrust that even your apology won’t dissolve.
Great people skills flow from a mindset that is flexible without being indecisive.
Great people skills are revealed in communication that is honest not blunt.
Great people skills stop today’s painful emotion from ruining tomorrow’s possibilities.
Ultimately, great people skills connect us in bonds of personal and professional success.
We will explore multiple dimensions of great people skills in a Twitter chat (hashtag: #peopleskills) starting Sunday Jan 27, 2013 at 10AM ET (3pm GMT) and every Sunday thereafter at that time. Please join us.
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People-Skills Coach™
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Kate Nasser, The People-Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.