Some say you need the ability to see beyond your own thoughts — in other words, telescopic talent. People with this talent can see others’ views more easily however it’s possible to consider others’ perspectives without it.
Others say you need the ability to see into another person’s mind — microscopic talent. There are people who have a natural ability to analyze and go deep yet it’s possible to see others’ perspectives without it.
So what does it take to listen and see the perspectives of others?
The short answer — love and courage.
Not tangible enough for you? Too touchy-feely especially in a work setting? OK. Here is a more substantial list that will help you improve your people skills ability to see others’ views.
People Skills: Essentials to Seeing Others’ Views
- Desire to grow. Wanting to know something new is the great motivator. If you don’t yearn to go beyond your current view, skills and ability won’t help you.
- Courage to explore and be vulnerable. Your beliefs help you feel grounded and comfortable. To see others’ views you must have the courage to go outside your comfort zone and hear very different ideas. This also means temporarily feeling vulnerable in the gap.
- Belief that the status quo is just as risky as change. People who find the courage to delve into others’ views also see discovery as risk reduction — not just as risk.
- Patience with ambiguity. If you always like feeling in control, you may also find that you don’t explore others’ views. In exploration there is always some ambiguity as you try to understand something different. Those who see others’ perspective have some patience with ambiguity.
- Comfort with diversity. Those who see others’ perspectives have accept diversity. Rather than categorically seeing ideas as right/wrong, they first see ideas as different. They don’t prejudge. They explore because they are comfortable with diversity.
- High self-esteem & humility. When high self-esteem and humility unite, your people skills shine. High self-esteem is the safety net for exploration. New ideas don’t threaten your ego. Humility prevents arrogance and self-righteousness. It keeps you learning about others and their views.
As you read through this list, the underlying elements are courage and love. It takes courage to explore, to go outside of the known and the comfortable. It takes love to give others a moment of your time and your courage to see what they have to say.
Consider what seeing peoples’ views can do for your personal and professional life.
- Strong friendships and happy marriages are based on willingness to see the other person’s view.
- Successful negotiation is all about exploring and seeing many aspects and views.
- Leadership and employee engagement hinge on exploring various perspectives.
- Teamwork gels when team members can work through different views to find a winning solution.
- Customer service soars when you take time to see the customer’s perspective.
Want some of these great successes? Give up the need to be right. Ease up on your need to control. Give some of your time and attention. Explore without fearing capitulation. Discover without confusing it with mindless agreement.
Seeing others’ views does not mean you will agree. It simply gives you and others a true chance to discover if you agree or disagree! With desire and great people skills, you will be respected for your openness — even in disagreement.
One great way to start: Ask yourself what if. ====> “What if I find out their ideas are similar to mine? What if I learn something that can help me in another way? What if they end up seeing value in my view? What if the different views are surprisingly helpful and give me happiness and success?”
It costs nothing to explore and learn and the return is great. Muster your courage, give your love, see others’ views, and fearlessly watch the new horizon emerge.
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People-Skills Coach™
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