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Leadership Self-Awareness Clears the Fog!


Great leaders prevent their weaknesses from becoming paralyzing blind spots. This leadership self-awareness fosters employee self-awareness and creates a high performance culture.


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Leadership Self-Awareness: 13 Lies Weak Leaders Bequeath to Everyone

When leaders are not self-aware, they hold the organization back from its true potential. Let’s consider some of the common examples.

  1. I hired the arrogant overbearing candidate because I can be up front with them. With excellent people skills, you can be up front with all your employees. Why do you think you can’t be? Organizational success depends on respectful openness and conversations that move things forward. Develop some leadership self-awareness so you don’t bequeath your fear to the organization.

  2. I make all the decisions because my team is immature. Well then who is developing them? Immaturity doesn’t mean people can’t mature. Great leaders model and mentor. Show courage to be accountable even when you are not directly responsible. Otherwise you leave a legacy of un-empowered employees.

  3. I give people endless chances to develop a great attitude because I’m kind. Or is it that you want to be liked? You can be kind and firm in addressing a persistent bad attitude. Address the bad attitude so you don’t bequeath it to the entire team to endure.

  4. I won’t fire people because I have integrity. Firing people doesn’t mean you lack integrity. If you must let someone go, know and communicate the reasons. Running from your responsibilities while you still hold the position leaves a difficult void.

  5. Extroverts don’t think things through. This old myth reveals your unwillingness to appreciate and lead diverse people. It under utilizes the talent already hired and disengages employees. Respect the differences or you create a homogeneous culture of intolerance.

  6. Introverts slow team success. Introverts don’t work more slowly nor do they slow team success. Your discomfort with quiet thinking is the true issue here. Develop some leadership self-awareness to move past your limits. Otherwise you leave much talent untapped.

  7. There is no I in team. Of course there is. There are many “I’s” in team who contribute their talents to the whole. This old maxim shows a desire to command and control. Inspire and appreciate each team member or you leave the teams less engaged than they could be.

  8. Pessimism and negativity are healthy. Skepticism and critical thinking can be healthy. Pessimism and negativity are toxic. Are you mistaking one for the other or are you uncomfortable in highly positive environments. Develop more leadership self-awareness to address this culture issue!

  9. Collaboration is risky because everybody thinks the same thing. Collaboration is not mindless agreement. People explore many possibilities as they work together. Could it be that you are highly competitive and uncomfortable around collaborators? In truth, people don’t have to be competitive for the organization to win. Collaborators are stronger than you think.

  10. Teamwork is important BUT this employee produces. If you have fallen into this trap, you’ve declared that individual performance matters, teamwork doesn’t. This can be the death knell for teamwork. People will see that you recognize non-team playing mavericks and teamwork erodes.

  11. Emotional intelligence is a bunch of nonsense. Leaders who say this show their lack of emotional intelligence. Self-awareness and awareness of others’ needs impact results. Emotional intelligence is at the heart of great leadership. If you push your way around without it, talent leaves. You create a legacy of high turnover.

  12. I can’t lead change because you can’t change people. You are telling the world that you don’t know how to lead change. Leading change is about inspiring people under new conditions to create the next success. If you don’t lead it, you abandon everyone in the chaos of change. Step up, inspire, discover your influence, and lead change.

  13. My teams know I appreciate them. I don’t have to say it. Showing appreciation is not an update to communicate the unknown. It is the oxygen that keeps people going in good times and bad. Develop some leadership self-awareness around your attitude toward showing appreciation. Otherwise you bequeath a culture of under-appreciated employees and their less then stellar performance.






Denial is not a success strategy. Escape from the lies that keep your organization in the shadows.




Your turn. What lies would you add to this list?



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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Leadership People Skills: 5 Essentials to Spark Team Agility
Are You An Annoying Maverick or Team Player?

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Two Magical Words That Expand and Improve Interactions


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As you read the title of this post, you might immediately think of please and thank you as the two magical words for great people skills.  While they are critical for positive interactions, there are two magical words that supersede them by having an impact from just thinking them!

What do you think the two magical words are?


Click to reveal the two magical words their impact on teamwork, collaboration, and innovation.



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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Developing Workplace People Skills in School is This Week’s Chat Topic!

WHEN/WHERE: Join us Sunday Nov. 16, 2014 on Twitter at 10AM ET. Hashtag: #peopleskills


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Developing Workplace People Skills in School

When you first entered the workforce, what did you wish you had learned in school? Join us Sunday Nov. 16th 10am ET to share your practical experience and insight with today’s youth and young workers?



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Developing Workplace People Skills in School

When you’re in school, you don’t often think about what you’ll need to survive and thrive at work. As I listen to today’s young workers, I hear their surprise over what it takes to get a job and succeed in it. So we take a new step forward in people skills chat by looking back at what we wish we had learned before work.

Some questions to get us thinking in advance:

  • When you started work, what did you wish you *had already learned growing up?
  • How did you feel without that knowledge/skills?
  • How can today’s youth and young adults expand their horizons to be better prepared for work?
  • How does society help or hinder the development of great people skills?
  • Should educators play a more significant role in developing workplace people skills?
  • Dear educators, please teach ______________ for success at work.
  • How can business leaders/owners and educators work more closely to better educate youth and teens for work?
  • How can we as a society awaken a thirst for learning that will feed workplace success?
  • Teamwork & collaboration: How can this be fostered before entering the workforce?
  • What #peopleskills could those in the workplace learn from today’s youth?

These are just some questions to get us thinking. Actual questions will post live during the chat.



So bring your desire to help our youth, your experience, a beverage, and join the community on Sunday Nov. 16, 10am ET in People Skills Chat on Twitter (hashtag: #peopleskills). Let’s share all we know and learn even more on developing workplace people skills in school.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining the Google+ People Skills Community, The Facebook Group People Skills That Really Matter and the LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to be a part of all the people skills discussions everyday 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Out of Gratitude

My gratitude to all who participate and grow the people skills global community on Twitter (#peopleskills), Google+, LinkedIn, and Facebook. We welcome your suggestions for topics, offers to co-host, and most especially your diverse insights.

Continued thanks to generous chat moderators Chantal Bechervaise, Dave Moore, Hoda Maalouf, Tracy Shroyer and Tom Rhodes for their time and contributions.






Hope you will all join our People Skills Chat on Twitter (#peopleskills) this Sunday Nov. 16, 2014, 10am ET/7am PT to share your insights, perspective, and experience on developing workplace people skills in school.

Everyone is welcome! We have only one rule in People Skills Global Chat: Respect for all even when we disagree.






TIP: If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Tweetchat.com, or Twubs.com and enter hashtag #peopleskills. Sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Tchat.io, Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Connect with you this Sun. Nov. 16, 2014, in global #peopleskills Twitter chat 10am EST to explore developing workplace people skills in school.


Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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Employee Appreciation: 3 Ways to Get It!

Do you feel unappreciated at work? That doesn’t mean people don’t appreciate you. It means they aren’t expressing appreciation to you.


It’s an important distinction. If you believe others don’t appreciate you, you can lose motivation. You can start to question your worth at work. You might even spiral into negativity that hurts other parts of your life. STOP!


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You can stay resilient. Simply learn these things about employee appreciation:

  • When people are most likely to express it
  • What stops them from expressing it
  • How to get more of it at work!



Employee Appreciation: When Do Leaders Express It

For many leaders, appreciation is an emotional response. They don’t show employee appreciation for tasks completed. They appreciate you when your actions fill their voids.

People express appreciation when you help them advance or ease their pain — when you are their buoy!



Leaders give appreciation when they have a need that you fill. Why? Because it is at that point they are aware of their vulnerability. They feel the need keenly enough to show employee appreciation. To get appreciation at work, be a buoy of resilience for others.


Employee Appreciation: 9 Reasons Leaders Don’t Show It

  1. Some people are very uncomfortable expressing positive emotion until your caring actions move them beyond their discomfort.
  2. Some leaders were mentored by leaders who thought emotion was unproductive. They live what they were taught.
  3. The organizational culture is not one of gratitude.
  4. Some leaders live by the old rule: No news is good news. They believe you are being paid to do a job.
  5. They believe that you know you are appreciated because you were hired.
  6. Your leader may be a high introvert who keeps much inside.
  7. Their leader doesn’t express appreciation to them and thus they have no motivation to show appreciation to you.
  8. Some people are intrinsically motivated and need little appreciation. They assume everyone is like them.
  9. Leaders who are high drivers focus on end results to the exclusion of everything else.


Employee Appreciation: 3 Ways to Get It!

Use your natural talents and interests to do for others what they can’t or don’t like to do.

  • Complete your boss. An executive admin reported to me that her boss hates to write. She loves to write. He gives her his key thoughts and she writes the document or presentation. He appreciates it and says so! She is his buoy!

  • Lift up your teammate. Teammates empathized with a teammate struggling with a serious personal life issue and filled the void when that teammate was not at work. They buoyed their teammate. The teammate expressed sincere appreciation.

  • Share your talents regardless of your title. One woman reported she is always good in a crisis. She’s a pressure player as the old saying goes. Now people turn to her at crunch time. She is a buoy! She receives appreciation at work for this even though she is not the official leader.



During a recent keynote, I said…

Instead of seeking appreciation for your job tasks, get appreciated for your natural talents.

Someone answered … That still means they don’t value our job function.

I replied: Job functions become extinct. Your talents don’t and won’t. Buoy people with your talents and you will get appreciation.

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Career Appreciation: Be a Buoy to Be More Appreciated at Work




It’s far better to rely on your talents to be appreciated than on a job function whose value changes with time.


Be a buoy. Support others. Make them resilient. Keep them afloat. Fill the void with your talents. This is how you will get appreciation at work.



Which talents do others appreciate in you?



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™


Related Posts:
25 Incredible Talents That Get Appreciated at Work
Leaders, Employee Engagement is Uniquely Personal

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Caring Words: No Cost & High Return in Business


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Caring Words Cost Nothing. Image by Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™




Don’t mistake caring words in business as weak, risky, or beating around the bush. Caring words cost nothing and create infinite possibilities. Their power comes in what they do and don’t do.

Caring words & caring tone of voice …

  • Build trust.
  • Develop relationships between strangers.
  • Open closed minds with empathy & trust.
  • Strengthen relationships to ride through storms together.




Caring words & caring tone of voice don’t …

  • Insert scars into important business agendas.
  • Trigger defensiveness that slows down success.
  • Foment resentment that overshadows the true business purpose.
  • Create walls that obstruct & maybe doom future opportunities.




Caring words & caring tone of voice are emotional intelligence in action.

  • They are based on respect for all humans even in disagreement.
  • They require a positive self-image that doesn’t preach to others.
  • They call for a courageous choice of giving before you receive anything.


“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; deeply loving someone gives you courage.” ~Lao Tzu via Goodreads Quotes


“Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.” ~Mother Teresa via Goodreads Quotes


Leaders, use caring words and tone to inspire, engage, and buoy employees! Hire employees with the emotional intelligence and desire to care for others. Teamwork and collaboration ascend to new heights. Customer experience soars to loyalty.



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Posts:
People Skills Missteps: Not So Friendly, Friendly Advice
3 Steps to Overcome Bias in Business
Emotionally Intelligent Teamwork: 10 Ways to Work w/ Immature Teammates

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Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.

 

 

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Handling Immature Teammates, Bosses, and Family is this week’s chat topic.

WHEN/WHERE: Join us Sunday Nov. 9, 2014 on Twitter at 10AM EST. Hashtag: #peopleskills


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Handling Immature Teammates, Bosses, & Family

People develop different levels of emotional intelligence and maturity. What happens when you must interact with people less mature than you?



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Handling Immature Teammates, Bosses, and Family!

Handling immature teammates and bosses — not to mention family — presents some special challenges. JOIN us Sunday 10am EST in #peopleskills global Twitter chat to share ideas and tips on this universal predicament.

Some questions to get us thinking in advance:

  • How do you define immaturity? Is it purely a matter of comparison?
  • What are some mature people skills behaviors and what does it feel like to be mature?
  • What emotions and conditions trigger immature behavior?
  • How is immaturity different from free spirited fun?
  • Is maturity a straight line path of growth or does it come and go?
  • Which immature behaviors undermine teamwork?
  • How would you respond to immature teammate behavior?
  • How do immature bosses/leaders behave & how do they impact those they lead?
  • What can employees do to help their boss/leader mature?
  • How do great people skills help you respond maturely to immature behavior?

These are just some questions to get us thinking. Actual questions will post live during the chat.



So bring your personal perspective, your experience, a beverage, and join the community on Sunday Nov. 9, 10am EST in People Skills Chat on Twitter (hashtag: #peopleskills). Share your experience, insight, and perspective on handling immature teammates, bosses and family.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining the Google+ People Skills Community, The Facebook Group People Skills That Really Matter and the LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to be a part of all the people skills discussions everyday 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Out of Gratitude

My gratitude to all who participate and grow the people skills global community on Twitter (#peopleskills), Google+, LinkedIn, and Facebook. We welcome your suggestions for topics, offers to co-host, and most especially your diverse insights.

Continued thanks to generous chat moderators Chantal Bechervaise, Dave Moore, Hoda Maalouf, Tracy Shroyer and Tom Rhodes for their time and contributions.






Hope you will all join our People Skills Chat on Twitter (#peopleskills) this Sunday Nov. 9, 2014, 10am EST/7am PST to share your insights, perspective, and experience on handling immature teammates, bosses, and family.

Everyone is welcome! We have only one rule in People Skills Global Chat: Respect for all even when we disagree.






TIP: If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Tweetchat.com, or Twubs.com and enter hashtag #peopleskills. Sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Tchat.io, Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Connect with you this Sun. Nov. 9, 2014, 10am EST to explore handling immature teammates in our #Peopleskills Global Twitter Chat.

Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

©2014 Kate Nasser, CAS, Inc. Somerville, NJ. I appreciate your sharing the link to this post on your social streams. However, if you want to re-post or republish the content of this post, please email info@katenasser.com for permission and guidelines. Thank you for respecting intellectual capital.


Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.

 

 

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Empathy & Humility: The Powerful Response to Bias


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Empathy and Humility: The Perfect Response to Bias

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When others’ bias threatens to block you, you can tell them off, walk away, or use empathy and humility to overcome their narrow mindedness. Empathy and humility is the place to start. You can always walk away later if you find people’s minds are sealed shut.



Empathy and humility can …

  • Reduce the fears that create the bias
  • Open the mind to a new view of the issue
  • Chip away at the comfort of the status quo and spur learning
  • Give you possibilities that outbursts or walking away can’t or won’t



Empathy and Humility: 3 Responses to Overcome Bias

As I reflected on moments when people were biased against me, I realized that I instinctively used empathy and humility. I was rewarded with positive results.

  1. Can a woman do this job? I was doing subcontracts for other consulting firms. One submitted my name to their client — a Fortune 500 corporation — to teach the new workshop on sales and consulting skills. At that point all the instructors were men. The corporate contact replied: A woman? The owner of the consulting firm relayed that reply to me and then asked me how he should reply. In fact he said to me, “I figured you faced this all the time and have some special way of replying.”

    I could have ripped all of them apart for their chauvinistic bias. Instead, I heard their fear of change. I put myself in their shoes and in the shoes of the women who would be taking the workshop. I replied: “If there will be women taking the workshop, they will benefit from knowing and seeing a woman do the sales and consulting job the corporation wants them to do.” Empathy and humility hit the mark. They immediately said yes.


  2. Why do we need someone from the USA to do this? The first time I went to Canada to teach customer service, the customs officer at the airport asked me why I was there. When I told him why, he forcefully said: “Will you please tell me why we need someone from the USA to teach customer service instead of an expert right here in Canada?”

    This was not the time to sing my own praises. It would have simply intensified his resistance. I replied: “90% of their customers are Americans. Who better to teach them how to deal with Americans, than an American?” He smiled, wished me well, and allowed me to pass. Empathy and humility opened the door to his comfort and my success.


  3. We don’t need you or this change. When leaders bring in consultants to foster change, team members sometimes resist the change by mislabeling us as uninformed outsiders. In these moments, empathy and humility overcome the bias by fostering learning and understanding.

    I ask them questions to understand their perspective. I offer examples of how things can be better. This empathy doesn’t stop the change; it helps team members to move it forward. The humility removes the power struggle and powers up the change.



Could a greater miracle take place than to look through each other’s eyes for an instant. ~Thoreau


When the deck seems stacked against you, remember the power of empathy and humility. As you step out of your own feelings of outrage and see into others’ minds, you may well find the connection to overcome their bias. As empathy makes the connection that reduces fear, humility elevates a shared purpose above their personal misgivings.



When has empathy and humility helped you overcome bias?


From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Posts:
When Tough Leaders Show Empathy
Leadership: Never Confuse Humility w/ Humiliation
What’s So Hot About Humility Anyway?

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Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.

 

 

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Bluntness Bombs Out: Here’s Why!

As The People Skills Coach™, I often coach leaders, managers, and technical professionals on steps to move from bluntness to helpful honesty. For people who are inspired by logic to change their behavior, here are 6 smart logical reasons why bluntness bombs out.


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6 Logical People Skills Reasons Bluntness Bombs Out


  1. No Warm-Up. Picture your bluntness as very cold water. If you push someone into a cold swimming pool, they remember the shock. If you let them wade in, they adjust to the temperature and function well. If you want people to hear and embrace your message, don’t shock them with bluntness.

  2. Punching Dulls the Brain. Punching bags are not known for their performance. They hang and swing. If you are blunt to effect a change, those you verbally punch may swing away from you. They are not likely to understand your message or change behavior.

  3. Bluntness builds barriers. Communication is for connection. Bluntness can create a busy signal — a barrier — between communicator and listener. If someone isn’t listening, your message essentially bombs out.

  4. Bluntness undermines respect and credibility. The strength of the message is weakened by the rudeness of the approach. Who is going to respect and believe the message delivered by a blunt oaf?

  5. Bluntness breaks bonds. Most people aren’t hermits. They interact and build bonds with others to survive and thrive. Bluntness may get your words out but it bombs out by breaking important bonds. It may even create vengeful feelings and start a verbal war.

  6. Bluntness focuses on your needs and overlooks others. It screams selfishness. It lacks emotional intelligence. It’s no wonder that bluntness turns others off.



Many leaders resort to bluntness out of frustration. When diplomatic honesty doesn’t seem to be working, they swing over to bluntness. Others resort to bluntness when they lose patience with those who don’t seem to understand their message or won’t listen.

Yet when you reach the end of your rope, why cut it with bluntness? Unless you need to use bluntness to save a life or prevent death, hold on to the rope!

Take a moment and tap your intellect, logic, and people skills to find a way to communicate with honesty and respect. It’s far more effective than bluntness.



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Post:
Reduce Conflict: Hear the Urgency Before the Yell
6 Key Reasons Executives Get Annoyed w/ You

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Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.

 

 

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People Skills for Trust is Sunday’s #Peopleskills Twitter Chat.

WHEN/WHERE: Join us Sunday Nov. 2, 2014 on Twitter at 10AM EST. Hashtag: #peopleskills


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People Skills for Trust

Trust is a deep and complex subject. It is in every relationship from business to personal. For this reason, we will explore people skills for trust in this Sunday’s #peopleskills global Twitter chat at 10am EST.



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People Skills for Trust

JOIN us Sunday 10am EST in #peopleskills Twitter chat to help dig into and unravel the complexities of trust. My co-host for this topic is Andrea Sanchez. Andrea is a writer/editor with 16 years of communications experience. Her passion is leadership and emotional intelligence. She is the host of the new leadership Twitter chat #DareToBe.

Some questions to get us thinking in advance:

  • What is your definition of trust and what does it mean to you?
  • How do you know if you can trust someone?
  • Does it take courage to trust others or only to “re-trust” them?
  • How do empathy and trust relate?
  • What increases and what destroys our ability to trust?
  • How does confidence impact trust?
  • How can leaders build trust with their teams?
  • When is trust most important to you?
  • How does the propensity to trust change as we mature?
  • How do #peopleskills impact trust?

These are just some questions to get us thinking. Actual questions will post live during the chat.



So bring your personal perspective, your experience, a beverage, and join the community on Sunday Nov. 2, 10am EST in People Skills Chat on Twitter (hashtag: #peopleskills). Share your experience, insight, and perspective on people skills for trust.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining the Google+ People Skills Community, The Facebook Group People Skills That Really Matter and the LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to be a part of all the people skills discussions everyday 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Out of Gratitude

My gratitude to all who participate and grow the people skills global community on Twitter (#peopleskills), Google+, LinkedIn, and Facebook. We welcome your suggestions for topics, offers to co-host, and most especially your diverse insights.

Thank you to my co-host for this topic Andrea Sanchez. Continued thanks to generous chat moderators Chantal Bechervaise, Dave Moore, Hoda Maalouf, Tracy Shroyer and Tom Rhodes for their time and contributions.






Hope you will all join our People Skills Chat on Twitter (#peopleskills) this Sunday Nov. 2, 2014, 10am EST/7am PST to share your insights, perspective, and experience on people skills for trust.

Everyone is welcome! We have only one rule in People Skills Global Chat: Respect for all even when we disagree.






TIP: If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Tweetchat.com, or Twubs.com and enter hashtag #peopleskills. Sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Tchat.io, Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Connect with you this Sun. Nov. 2, 2014, 10am EST for people skills for trust in our #Peopleskills Global Twitter Chat.

Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!

 

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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Prevent the Negative Effects of Being Too Positive!


Is your positive attitude helping yourself and others? It often can. Yet, have you ever met someone who overlooks empathy and drives their positive attitude on others?

When extremely positive people don’t account for others’ needs, their positive outlook can backfire.  They can come across as patronizing, controlling, and oddly enough, insensitive.


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5 Ways to Prevent the Negative Effects of Being Positive

I have a very positive attitude about life and deliver inspirational keynotes to lift others up. I have also met people who try to convert me to their version of optimism before seeing how positive I already am!  This turns me off to what they have to offer.


To prevent this misstep …

  1. Listen in the moment and understand others’ perspectives.  Listening builds trust through respect of others’ needs.  Sometimes people are so busy encouraging others to be positive they don’t stop and detect what others need at that moment.  Everyone is on a journey and they travel at different speeds.   Some get to a positive attitude faster than others.  Some don’t even want to go there.  

    Exception: If you are a leading an organization through change and a true resistor is slowing the pace with negativity, you will need to address that very clearly to ensure the momentum of change.


  2. Acknowledge and empathize.  Empathy doesn’t mean you agree. It means you matter, we matter this matters. Connect with empathy to build the trust needed to influence others.

  3. Coach only when asked.  In everyday life, don’t elect yourself someone else’s life coach.  Even positive words like “I would like to encourage you to …” are somewhat arrogant if the person didn’t ask for your help.   Live and enjoy your own positive attitude but don’t declare yourself Ruler of PositiveLand and issue decrees.  You may become known as a royal pain in the tail.

  4. Blend optimism with realism. It opens the door to empathy and builds credibility. It is much easier to connect and trust someone who has their feet on the ground as they reach for the stars.

  5. Disagree honestly and with respect. Become comfortable with honest respectful disagreement.  People disagree in life.  Working through disagreements often delivers great results.  Yet sometimes extremely positive people patronize during a disagreement because they seek immediate harmony.  Disagreement can be a positive if it is done respectfully.




Live positively and let others see your optimism and positive choices. Blend it with empathy and realism and you ascend to trust, respect, and the long reach of influence.


From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Posts:
Leadership Optimism: Keeping It Real
When Strong Leaders Use Empathy

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People Skills Focus on Respect in Sunday’s Twitter Chat.

WHEN/WHERE: Join us Sunday October 26, 2014 on Twitter at 10AM EDT. Hashtag: #peopleskills


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People Skills Focus on Respect

Respect is a human need. It has the power to inspire greatness and soothe pain. It brings humanity together with a sense of equality and acceptance. For this reason, we put our people skills focus on respect in this Sunday’s #peopleskills global Twitter chat at 10am ET.



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People Skills Focus on Respect

JOIN us Sunday 10am ET in #peopleskills Twitter chat for our people skills focus on respect.

Some questions to get us thinking in advance:

  • What does respect mean to you?
  • Does everyone deserve respect or is it something we each must earn? Pls. explain.
  • Must you give respect to get it? What if you don’t get it?
  • How do empathy and respect relate? Can you respect someone you don’t understand?
  • Honesty and respect: Can you give both at the same time?
  • What is the true power of respect?
  • What are the small everyday ways we can show respect to each other?
  • How do you respond to disrespect? What do you say?
  • How do great leaders build respect?
  • What influences children/teens the most to show respect or disrespect to others?
  • Respect vs courtesy — is there a difference?
  • Is respect difficult to find and maintain in social media? Pls. explain.
  • How do people skills develop and maintain respect in society?

These are just some questions to get us thinking. Actual questions will post live during the chat.



So bring your personal perspective, your experience, a beverage, and join the community on Sunday October 26, 2014, 10am EDT in People Skills Chat on Twitter (hashtag: #peopleskills). Share your experience, insight, and perspective in our people skills focus on respect.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining the Google+ People Skills Community, The Facebook Group People Skills That Really Matter and the LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to be a part of all the people skills discussions everyday 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Out of Gratitude

My gratitude to all who participate and grow the people skills global community on Twitter (#peopleskills), Google+, LinkedIn, and Facebook. We welcome your suggestions for topics, offers to co-host, and most especially your diverse insights.

Continued thanks to generous chat moderators Chantal Bechervaise, Dave Moore, Hoda Maalouf, Tracy Shroyer and Tom Rhodes for their time and contributions.






Hope you will all join our People Skills Chat on Twitter (#peopleskills) this Sunday October 26, 2014, 10am EDT/7am PDT to share your insights, perspective, and experience on people skills focus on respect.

Everyone is welcome! We have only one rule in People Skills Global Chat: Respect for all even when we disagree.






TIP: If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Tweetchat.com, or Twubs.com and enter hashtag #peopleskills. Sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Tchat.io, Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Connect with you this Sun. October 26, 2014, 10am EDT for people skills focus on respect in our #Peopleskills Global Twitter Chat.

Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!


From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

©2014 Kate Nasser, CAS, Inc. Somerville, NJ. I appreciate your sharing the link to this post on your social streams. However, if you want to re-post or republish the content of this post, please email info@katenasser.com for permission and guidelines. Thank you for respecting intellectual capital.


Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.

 

 

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Leadership Calls: Are You Ready to Answer?


Leadership calls. Are you ready to lead others? Do you have the people skills to handle the tough moments?

Do you have the emotional intelligence to spot difficulties early on? Do you have the initiative and courage to step up in order to prevent difficulties from becoming major trouble?


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Leadership Calls: How Will You Answer?

In the 25 years I’ve been consulting to mid-level leaders, I’ve seen an unfortunate trend. They are managing functions not leading people. Leadership calls, they get promoted, and then feel stumped on how to lead others.

The good news is, you can develop your leadership people skills. Whether new to leadership or not, when leadership calls you can be ready.






Prepare your people skills for these tough situations …

  1. Someone comes to you and says a co-worker is bullying or harassing them. What would you do? There is much evidence to show many leaders minimize the person’s claim, blame the victim, or tell the victim to work it out with the co-worker. BIG mistake. Your response comes across to the victim as abandonment and mistrust. Co-worker bullying thrives on leaders who live in denial. Leadership calls and the leaders don’t lead. They deny and blame.

    Leadership people skills approach: Don’t abandon your employees. Get closer. Talk to them. Ask non-judgmental questions! Explore and listen. In this way, you communicate that you care. You also learn important information and understand the issue. You can then decide on appropriate next steps.

  2. One employee is slacking off. No one is formally complaining to you but they complain to each other. What would you do? If you are thinking, “how would I know if an employee is slacking off,” you are not leading. Leading is pro-active emotional intelligence in action. It senses and sees what’s going on before the virus spreads.

    Leadership people skills approach: Stay connected to the pulse of the workplace. With the teams’ input, set the bar high and then call everyone to reach it with skills, attitude, and great teamwork. If some are slacking off, speak with them. Find out if it’s a skills issue or an attitude issue. If it’s a skills issue, address development or reassignment. If it’s an attitude issue, be clear and frank. Leadership calls and you must call everyone to high levels of performance. If you hide your head on this one, the quicksand will pull you all under.

  3. There’s an organizational change announced and you must lead your teams through it. Upper leadership has announced it. You and your teams aren’t thrilled about it. How do you act? If you commiserate with your teams, you enable their resistance.

    Leadership people skills approach: Embrace the change and lead them to do the same. Empathize and acknowledge their feelings but don’t commiserate and encourage mutiny. Deepen your commitment to the change and get closer to your teams to buoy them. If you don’t believe in the change, why should they?







To get closer and deeper when leadership calls, remember …

  • Being objective and fair doesn’t mean being neutral. Lead them. Don’t abandon them.
  • Leadership requires performance of your duties. Hiding and denying are a form of malpractice. Overlooking symptoms, avoiding necessary conversations, blaming instead of resolving are leadership negligence. Leadership calls. Lead with your eyes wide open.
  • Bonds are not the same thing as bondage. Bonds don’t handcuff and block success. Closer and deeper bonds build trust — the pathway to success. Leadership calls. Be more connected to your people not just the results.



Show your readiness. When leadership calls, get closer and deeper to take everyone farther!



What has been your greatest leadership challenge & how did you handle it?



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Posts:
The Biggest Leadership Surprises of New Leaders
Leaders, 10 Ways to Ignite Greatness Without Leaving Scars
Exceptional Empowerment: Keep Your Expertise Involved
Leadership: 12 Essential Thoughts to Proficient People Skills

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Stop School Bullying is People Skills Twitter Chat Rally – Sunday Oct. 5th 10am ET.

Hashtag: #peopleskills

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Background on People Skills Chat – Rally to Stop School Bullying

Once each quarter we dedicate our #Peopleskills global Twitter chat hour to the Stop Bullying cause. Last time, we focused on workplace bullying.

In this rally, we use our intellect, hearts, and voices to stop school bullying in its tracks. Please spread the word and invite others to join us on Twitter Sunday Oct 5th 10am ET using Hashtag: #peopleskills.


My wonderful co-host for this event is Tom Rhodes, father of four children, working to create a better social environment. Tom has written a new blog post: Stop Bullying: Choose to Make a Difference! Read and share his touching post with your schools, families, educators, and friends and of course, join us for this rally.


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People Skills Twitter Chat – Rally to Stop School Bullying

Bullying continues to plague everyday life and it is fitting that our people skills community continue its efforts to stop bullying. This time we turn our focus, hearts, and minds to stop school bullying.



Here are some questions to get us thinking in advance …

  • What is your definition of bullying?
  • Where does school bullying get its roots? What are the causes?
  • Why does this issue persist?
  • Aggressive and passive aggressive bullying: What is the effect of each?
  • What are some key ways to prevent school bullying?
  • How do you handle a situation where kids/teens are being bullied?
  • How can we get kids and teens to let others know if they are being bullied? Why do they not tell adults?
  • How can kids/teens stop school bullies? Or is it purely an adult role to do this?
  • What role do educational and societal values play in fueling or stopping school bullying?
  • How can people skills stop school bullying? What skills are most important?


Final versions of these questions will post live during the chat. If you cannot attend this Sunday at 10am ET and want to schedule some responses to these questions, please use hashtag #peopleskills so the tweets will show up in the chat room. Feel free to add other relevant hashtags as you see fit.


We have one rule in People Skills Chat: Respect even when we disagree.


So bring your caring heart, your focus, and your favorite beverage, and join us from around the globe this Sunday in people skills global Twitter chat — Oct. 5th, 2014 10am ET (Hashtag: #peopleskills) — our online rally to stop school bullying.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining our Google+ People Skills Community, our Facebook Group People Skills That Really Matter and our LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to contribute and learn 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Outs of Gratitude

Continued thanks to generous people skills community moderators Chantal Bechervaise, Dave Moore, Hoda Maalouf, Tracy Shroyer and Tom Rhodes for their time, generosity, insight, and contributions.




Thanks to all committed community members who participate in our people skills global Twitter chats (#peopleskills) and online groups. Last, but not least, a warm welcome to newcomers who continue to join our community.






Hope you will all join People Skills global Twitter chat #peopleskills this Sunday Oct. 5th, 2014 10am ET/7am PT for our online rally to stop school bullying!







How to Participate
If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Tchat.io, Tweetchat.com or Twubs.com, enter hashtag #peopleskills, and sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Chat with you this Sun. Oct. 5th, 2014 10am ET in People Skills global Twitter Chat (#peopleskills), for our online rally to stop school bullying.


Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!


From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

©2014 Kate Nasser, CAS, Inc. Somerville, NJ. I appreciate your sharing the link to this post on your social streams. However, if you want to re-post or republish the content of this post, please email info@katenasser.com for permission and guidelines. Thank you for respecting intellectual capital.


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Millennials Success: 5 Ways to Be Included Not Just Recognized!


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Millennials Success: Be Included Not Just Recognized Image via Istock.com.

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I keep reading articles about what millennials want at work. For millennials success, my advice is …





Being recognized says, “We see you.” Being included says, “We need you and we trust you.” Millennials success, just like anyone’s, depends on being needed and trusted.

Millennials Success: 5 Ways to Be Included Not Just Recognized

Being different can get you recognized yet it won’t necessarily get you included or trusted. Differences create gaps that subconsciously trigger mistrust.

Flex and adapt to others and they will recognize AND include you. As you close the gaps, mistrust fades into comfort and eventually trust.

  1. Dress with some individual expression yet not too much. How you dress tells others whether you want to connect with them. Too different says, “Look how different I am.” Somewhat similar to others says, “Yes I want to connect.” As the saying goes, when in Rome, do as the Romans.

  2. Show your endurance and forbearance. Being needed and trusted grows from your ability to endure and tolerate situations (and people) you don’t like. Everyone faces a difficult road. Show emotional intelligence and willingness to work through others’ flaws.


  3. DifficultRoadsOftenLeadtoBeautifulDestinations


  4. Bring your exuberance and curiosity. Moderate your exuberance with curiosity about others. Too much of “here’s my view” without enough “what’s your view” will get you recognized but not needed, trusted, and included. Show true interest in others and you build empathy based trust.

  5. Offer your talents and technology know-how but don’t expect immediate acceptance. Millennials success comes from offering the new while valuing the status quo. Otherwise others may see you as a narrow-minded naive know-it-all.

  6. Act empowered not entitled. Empowerment gives; entitlement takes. Whom would you trust more? Someone who walks in asking others to do for them or someone who walks in contributing? Contributors become needed and trusted.



To do these things without resentment, remember that inclusion doesn’t mean assimilation. You can be included — needed and trusted — without being completely assimilated and fading into the background.


Inclusion doesn’t mean you lose you. It’s not …



Inclusion is not assimilation. You can still be you!

Inclusion is not assimilation. You can still be you!

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Whether starting a career or changing jobs, most people hope to be acknowledged. It’s wonderful to be recognized at work.


Yet being recognized is not enough. Being included signals that you are needed and also trusted for respecting and accommodating others. Eccentrics, celebrities, and upstarts are recognized yet not always trusted and seen as necessary.


For millennials success at work, be included. It’s far better than just being recognized!


Your turn: What else breeds career success?



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Posts:
Career Communication: Too Much Playing Can Be Hazardous
The 8 Ins and Outs of Business People Skills
Courtesy Checklist: 10 Superior Ways to Lead, Serve, & Collaborate
Accountability: People Skills Secrets Revealed

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Handling Conflict is our people skills chat topic this Sunday.

WHEN/WHERE: Join us Sunday Sept. 28, 2014 on Twitter at 10AM EDT. Hashtag: #peopleskills


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Handling Conflict: The People Skills Way

Handling conflict is a one of the most valuable people skills. It is essential for working and living together. It respects all views and and discovers win-win solutions. So we gather for this chat to explore handling conflict the people skills way.


My co-host for this chat is Michael Cortes, education & presentation coach. Michael suggested this topic and is looking forward to engaging with everyone this Sunday.


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Handling Conflict With Great People Skills

JOIN us Sunday at 10am ET in #peopleskills Twitter chat to share your views and experience on handling conflict.

Some questions to get us thinking in advance:

  • How do you define conflict?
  • What is the difference between disagreement and conflict? Is there a difference?
  • Would you rather be around a constant peacemaker, a person who sticks to their views, or __________?
  • “Ideas and not battles mark the forward progress of mankind.” ~L. Ron Hubbard Ag/Disagree?
  • How do you feel when you sense a conflict is developing?
  • Fear of conflict – where does it come from? How can people overcome it?
  • What factors make conflict difficult to handle?
  • How do interactions turn into conflict?
  • What types of conflicts can develop when people work together and why?
  • How do people skills resolve conflict?
  • What skills do leaders need to handle conflict among team members?

These are just some questions to get us thinking. Actual questions will post live during the chat.



So bring your personal perspective, your experience, a beverage, and join the community on Sunday Sept 28, 2014, 10am EDT in People Skills Chat on Twitter (hashtag: #peopleskills). Share your creative views and experience in our people skills chat on handling conflict.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining the Google+ People Skills Community, The Facebook Group People Skills That Really Matter and the LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to be a part of all the people skills discussions everyday 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Out of Gratitude

My gratitude to my co-host this week Michael Cortes, and to all who participate and grow the people skills global community on Twitter (#peopleskills), Google+, LinkedIn, and Facebook. We welcome your suggestions for topics, offers to co-host, and most especially your diverse insights.

Continued thanks to generous chat moderators Chantal Bechervaise, Dave Moore, Hoda Maalouf, Tracy Shroyer and Tom Rhodes for their time and contributions.






Hope you will all join our People Skills Chat on Twitter (#peopleskills) this Sunday Sept. 28, 2014, 10am EDT/7am PDT to share your insights, perspective, and experience on handling conflict.

Everyone is welcome! We have only one rule in People Skills Global Chat: Respect for all even when we disagree.






TIP: If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Tweetchat.com, or Twubs.com and enter hashtag #peopleskills. Sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Tchat.io, Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Connect with you this Sun. Sept. 28, 2014, 10am EDT in our People Skills Global Twitter Chat about handling conflict.

Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

©2014 Kate Nasser, CAS, Inc. Somerville, NJ. I appreciate your sharing the link to this post on your social streams. However, if you want to re-post or republish the content of this post, please email info@katenasser.com for permission and guidelines. Thank you for respecting intellectual capital.


Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.

 

 

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