Leadership Evolution: Are You a Boring Tiresome Leader?
The debate about whether leaders need to be personable and engaging continues on and on. Introverts claim it’s a one-sided view and unfairly excludes them and their talents. Hard driving results focused leaders slough it off as fluff.
The real issue in this leadership evolution is in defining personable and engaging. It doesn’t mean you have to be a comedian, a socialite, a softie, nor an extrovert.
Leadership Evolution: From Boring and Tiresome to Uplifting
If your demeanor, words, and actions weigh people down, they will see you as tiresome and boring. They will disengage from your heavy load. Give yourself a leadership checkup with this list!
- Giving orders is boring. Tap employees’ talents to ignite their commitment.
- Focusing on blame suffocates desire. Breed accountability not blame. This is valuable leadership evolution.
- Black/white thinking keeps people in the status quo. Quite boring. Develop some patience with ambiguity to foster innovation and change. You go from boring to not boring just like that.
- Making it all about your pet peeves is very tiresome to others. Leaders who make life easy for themselves and tough on others lose influence because selfishness is boring. Be a model of give and take.
- Sitting on the fence while others struggle is lackluster leadership. Some leaders believe they must be neutral to empower others. Actually, it just irks others. Mentor, coach, ask questions, discuss. This is leadership evolution that says “let’s succeed together.”
- Sidelining employees who don’t agree with you is uninspiring to everyone. Even those you favor will believe that you don’t want or need their views. This humdrum leadership casts a shadow over success as groupthink takes over. Instead, engage and consider opinions and options. If you don’t agree, explain why. This mentoring expands everyone’s understanding of the bigger picture.
- Showing disdain out of frustration is disheartening to others. Quite tiresome. When you are stressed, communicate with unemotional words. This show of self-control strengthens others. It is impressive and it doesn’t leave scars!
- Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all. ~Aristotle Develop your mind and your heart. Leaders who increase their emotional intelligence uplift others. That’s exciting!
- Ego jousting grows old very quickly. When you think of the diverse personality types you will lead, assuming they all love to compete at the ego level is ridiculous. To many, it is a giant bore. Go beyond ego and discover the infinite possibilities of diversity. You go from boring to exciting in record time.
- Micro-managing is a huge snooze. Communicate the big picture, share your knowledge, let them know your door is open, and get out of the way. People go from feeling like robots to feeling alive!
- Stereotyping suffocates. Rid your mind of fear-driven biases. Start seeing people as they are and you breathe life into success. This is true leadership evolution that excites everyone.
As a leader, do you choose to be …
- Selfish or giving?
- Safe or strong?
- Weak or courageous?
- Closed or open?
- Scarring or illuminating?
- Stagnant or growing?
And which leader would you like to work for/with? Worth pondering. Worth considering. Worth growing.
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™
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