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Mega Innovation w/Employee Morale is our People Skills Global Chat Topic

WHEN: Sunday Aug 23, 2015 at 10AM EDT on Twitter. Hashtag: #peopleskills


Background on This Chat Topic: Mega Innovation w/ Employee Morale

With the Amazon.com workplace in the news, I am compelled to have our people skills global Twitter chat discuss: “Can you have mega innovation and success with great employee morale?” Some say it’s the only way. Others claim that it is an either/or. Please JOIN us Sunday Aug. 23, 2015 10amEDT in people skills global Twitter chat to share your insights and experience on mega innovation and employee morale.



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Mega Innovation & Employee Morale – Exciting or Challenging?

JOIN us in #Peopleskills global Twitter chat to explore whether workplaces can be highly innovative and competitive AND have great employee morale.

Here are some questions to get us thinking in advance. Actual questions will post live during the chat.

  • How do you define employee morale?
  • What creates and affects employee morale?
  • Picture a highly innovation workplace culture. What do you see?
  • Innovation and employee morale are _____________.
  • If you had a choice between working in highly competitive/innovative environment or somewhere else, which would you choose and why?
  • Does innovation require criticism that degrades employee morale? Pls. explain.
  • How do emotional intelligence and innovation relate if at all?
  • How can everyone disagree for innovation without hurting each other and workplace morale?
  • What are some positive phrases to use when disagreeing in creative moments?
  • What leadership actions/behaviors impact innovation and employee morale?
  • What role do people skills play in balancing innovation and employee morale if at all?


So bring your personal perspective, your favorite beverage, and join the people skills global chat community this Sunday Aug. 23 2015 10am EDT in Twitter (hashtag: #peopleskills) about mega innovation and employee morale.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining the Google+ People Skills Community and the LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to be a part of all the people skills discussions everyday 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Out of Gratitude

My gratitude to all who participate and grow the people skills global chat community on Twitter (#peopleskills), Google+, and LinkedIn. We welcome your suggestions for topics, offers to co-host, and most especially your individual insights.

Special thanks generous chat moderators Dave Moore, Jandis Price, Chantal Bechervaise, Hoda Maalouf, and Tom Rhodes for their time and insightful contributions.






Hope you will all join People Skills Global Chat on Twitter #peopleskills this Sunday Aug. 23, 2015 10am EDT/7am PDT to discuss mega innovation and employee morale.

Everyone is welcome! We have only one rule in People Skills Global Chat: Respect for all even when we disagree.







TIP: If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Twubs.com or Tweetchat.com, enter hashtag #peopleskills, and sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Tchat.io, Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Chat with you this Sun. Aug. 23, 2015 10am EDT in People Skills Global Chat on Twitter (#peopleskills) TOPIC: Mega Innovation and Employee Morale.


Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

©2015 Kate Nasser, CAS, Inc. Somerville, NJ. I appreciate your sharing the link to this post on your social streams. However, if you want to re-post or republish the content of this post, please email info@katenasser.com for permission and guidelines. Thank you for respecting intellectual capital.


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Building New Relationships is our People Skills Global Chat Topic

WHEN: Sunday Aug 9, 2015 at 10AM EDT on Twitter. Hashtag: #peopleskills


Background on This Chat Topic: Building New Relationships

Does the thought of meeting new people and building new relationships excite you? Or do you see it as a challenge or even a chore? Please JOIN us Sunday Aug. 9, 2015 10amEDT in people skills global Twitter chat to share your insights and experience on building new relationships.



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Building New Relationships – Exciting or Challenging?

JOIN us in #Peopleskills global Twitter chat to explore the topic of building new relationships.

Here are some questions to get us thinking in advance. Actual questions will post live during the chat.

  • Assumptions are the termites of relationships. Ag/Disagree Why? ~Henry Winkler
  • Patience, wisdom, respect, trust, generosity – which is most important for relationships?
  • What kills relationships? What makes them thrive?
  • Relationships: “When what you hear and what you see don’t match, trust your eyes.” ~Dale Renton Ag/Disagree? Why?
  • Meeting new people feels __________________.
  • What does it take to go from “new” relationship to comfortable?
  • When is building new relationships most enjoyable and/or valuable?
  • When building new relationships on #socialmedia, _____________.
  • How does emotional intelligence play a role in building new relationships, if at all?
  • What are the obstacles and challenges to new relationships?
  • How can people overcome their fear of meeting new people?
  • What is your best people skills tip for building new relationships?


So bring your personal perspective, your favorite beverage, and join the people skills global chat community this Sunday Aug. 9, 2015 10am EDT in Twitter (hashtag: #peopleskills) about building new relationships.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining the Google+ People Skills Community and the LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to be a part of all the people skills discussions everyday 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Out of Gratitude

My gratitude to all who participate and grow the people skills global chat community on Twitter (#peopleskills), Google+, and LinkedIn. We welcome your suggestions for topics, offers to co-host, and most especially your individual insights.

Special thanks generous chat moderators Dave Moore, Jandis Price, Chantal Bechervaise, Hoda Maalouf, and Tom Rhodes for their time and insightful contributions.






Hope you will all join People Skills Global Chat on Twitter #peopleskills this Sunday Aug. 9, 2015 10am EDT/7am PDT to discuss building new relationships.

Everyone is welcome! We have only one rule in People Skills Global Chat: Respect for all even when we disagree.







TIP: If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Twubs.com or Tweetchat.com, enter hashtag #peopleskills, and sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Tchat.io, Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Chat with you this Sun. Aug. 9, 2015 10am EDT in People Skills Global Chat on Twitter (#peopleskills) TOPIC: Building New Relationships.


Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

©2015 Kate Nasser, CAS, Inc. Somerville, NJ. I appreciate your sharing the link to this post on your social streams. However, if you want to re-post or republish the content of this post, please email info@katenasser.com for permission and guidelines. Thank you for respecting intellectual capital.


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Empathy: Key Thoughts to Boost Your Success

Empathy is one of the people skills that can make or break your business success. Career and business success is all about relationships and empathy is key. It replaces the distance of diversity with bonds of connection.



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Empathy: 3 Key Thoughts to Boost Your Business Success

You can develop your empathy and increase your success. Empathy gets you out of your own head and into others. It allows you to step outside of your own perspective and see where others are coming from. It builds trust. It builds bonds with customers. It boosts your negotiation skills.

Key Thought #1:



Empathy: Image is quote Empathy is the connection before the solution.

Empathy is the connection before the solution. ~Kate Nasser





Key Thought #2:



Image is quote: Empathize before you analyze.

Empathize before you analyze. ~Kate Nasser





Key Thought #3:



Image is quote: Empathy and integrity build and rebuild trust.

Empathy and integrity build and rebuild trust. ~Kate Nasser



Empathy is the universal connector to the new and unexplored. It unites people to create success together — leaders and teams, business owners and leaders, sales reps and customers. It is one of the most powerful business people skills.




Get Started Now!

9 Hidden Places to Find & Develop Your Empathy



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Posts:
Empathy and Integrity: 5 Keys to Rebuild Customer Trust

©2015 Kate Nasser, CAS, Inc. Somerville, NJ. I appreciate your sharing the link to this post on your social streams. However, if you want to re-post or republish the content of this post, please email info@katenasser.com for permission and guidelines. Thank you for respecting intellectual capital.


Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.

 

 

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I invite your questions, welcome your wisdom, and look forward to working with you.
~Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Teamwork Persona: Will Others Want to Work With You?

Colonel Pamela Melroy, former NASA space shuttle commander, recently asked a very telling people skills question during her career mentoring talks at the space and science festival on the Intrepid Museum.



Are you someone others would want to spend two years with?


Young adults in school, new entrants into the workplace, or experienced workers changing careers, often overlook this question. They focus on developing occupational skills. Yet the people skills and team skills are the aspects that answer Colonel Melroy’s question. It took more than science smarts to be in space with others.


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Teamwork Persona: Are You Someone Others Want to Work With? Image by Creative Sustainability via Flickr.

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Teamwork Persona: Are You Someone Others Will Want to Work With?

Start developing your teamwork persona early on and never stop. Your people skills and teamwork skills determine if others want to spend time with you. Here’s a checklist to guide you.

  1. Flexibility and affability. What behaviors do you exhibit that make it easy to get along with you? What traits or behaviors will you develop to make it even easier?

  2. Reliability. Do you bring all your talents and abilities to work every single day? Do you shine or retreat in tough times?

  3. Honesty not bluntness. Do you communicate with honesty and care? Are you straightforward without being blunt? Your teamwork persona will attract others when you are easy to understand without being hurtful.

  4. Collaboration. How do you react to this word? Do you want to scream out, “I’m highly competitive!” If you did, would others want you on their team? Something to think about.

  5. Confidence not arrogance. How do you come across? Teammates want your confidence. It lightens the load. They don’t want your arrogance. It increases the load. Make a list of behaviors that you believe express confidence and those that show arrogance. Ask others how you come across. Work on the first list and eliminate the second! This is how you improve your teamwork persona.

  6. Moderation of extremes. Most everyone has some extreme behaviors. It could be habits you’ve developed or traits that have evolved. The key question is: Can you moderate them so they don’t burden others?

  7. Courage and humility. Work requires both depending on the situation. When pressure mounts, how do you act? When conditions require some restraint, can you do that well?

  8. Respect. Showing respect to and for others is essential to a great teamwork persona. It is the basis for all teamwork.

  9. Integrity. The ultimate factor in whether people will want to work with you. Trust is everything.


Developing your occupational skills is the normal career path. Developing your teamwork persona will lead to incredible career success. Start now!



What would you add to this teamwork persona checklist?



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Posts:
21 Reasons People Don’t Get Along at Work
5 Extremes That Harm Teamwork
Moderation Doesn’t Mean Mediocrity

©2015 Kate Nasser, CAS, Inc. Somerville, NJ. I appreciate your sharing the link to this post on your social streams. However, if you want to re-post or republish the content of this post, please email info@katenasser.com for permission and guidelines. Thank you for respecting intellectual capital.


Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.



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Creativity Culture: How to Create Safe Open Engagement

Three years into running people skills global Twitter chat, I am thrilled with how many strangers from around the globe come together and engage openly. Recently, one newcomer said he was grateful I had created a safe open place to interact.


His gratitude made me reflect on what I had done and what others did to make this happen. Here is what we did to create an open creativity culture! It applies to workplaces as well.



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Creativity Culture: Keys to Creating Safe Place to Engage. Image by Sweet Dreamz Design via Flickr.

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Creativity Culture: 7 Keys to Create Safe Open Engagement

Leaders and managers can do much to create a safe open place for everyone to engage and create.

  1. Create a simple powerful rule about respect.

    Respect is the key to feeling safe to engage, share, and create. In people skills global Twitter chat, we use one rule: Respect even when we disagree. Civility doesn’t weaken the message. It helps others to hear it.


  2. Listen!

    One of the strongest ways to show respect is to listen. It doesn’t mean obey; it doesn’t mean agree. It says respect for all.


  3. Ask questions to understand vs. judging people to discount ideas.

    We open our minds through questions and discussion. Assessing and deciding comes after that.



  4. Celebrate diversity.

    Applaud very different ideas. Appreciating diverse views doesn’t mean we agree. It means we are open to learning and creating.


  5. Moderate extremes.

    Moderation doesn’t mean mediocrity. It means balancing the needs of many in your creativity culture. If we see moderation as mediocrity, we seek excellence only in extremes — and miss the brilliance in between. Extremes spring up from strong vision and mission, predominance of any one personality type, and high pressure points.


  6. Encourage self-awareness.

    Help everyone identify their own pet peeves and own them. Help them see their talents and brilliance and share them. With this step, you replace a shortage mentality with one of abundance and curiosity.


  7. Identify slip ups early.

    The first six keys mean little if we don’t use them. This means spotting slip ups early on and calling everyone to a high level again.


Fostering a creativity culture where it’s safe to engage is not difficult. If we can bring strangers from around the globe every Sunday morning to engage in people skills Twitter chat, leaders and managers can surely foster the same thing in smaller teams. As long as they see it as important to interaction, they can make it happen.



Your View: What would you add to this list on creating safe open place to engage?



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Post:
Innovation Leadership: Make It Easier to Innovate Than to Complain
Moderation Doesn’t Mean Mediocrity
Leadership: Do You Seek Excellence Only in Extremes?

©2015 Kate Nasser, CAS, Inc. Somerville, NJ. I appreciate your sharing the link to this post on your social streams. However, if you want to re-post or republish the content of this post, please email info@katenasser.com for permission and guidelines. Thank you for respecting intellectual capital.


Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.



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Let’s turn interaction obstacles into business success in leadership, teamwork, and customer service experience.

I invite your questions, welcome your wisdom, and look forward to working with you.
~Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Second Chances Is Our People Skills Global Twitter Chat Topic.

WHEN: Sunday June 7, 2015 at 10AM EDT. Hashtag: #peopleskills


Background on This Chat Topic: Second Chances

Mistakes happen. Disagreements arise. At work and in life, what brings people together or keeps them apart again after difficulties? JOIN us Sunday June 7, 2015 as we explore second chances.



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Second Chances – When, Why, and How?

If life is learning, what makes the idea of second chances so hard to embrace? Is it mostly about trust? Does it take courage to give someone a second chance? JOIN us in this #peopleskills global Twitter chat to explore the dynamics of second chances in your professional and personal life.

Some questions to get us thinking in advance. Actual questions will post live during the chat.

  • What feelings does the phrase ‘second chance’ evoke in you?
  • Should there be a limit on how many chances we give people?
  • In what conditions would you not offer someone a second chance? Why?
  • What stops us from giving people a second chance?
  • How is trust related to second chances?
  • If you give someone a second chance and they fail you again, how do you feel and how do you deal with it?
  • Where or when were you grateful to get a second chance?
  • How does it benefit a business to give employees a second chance at success?
  • Does giving someone a second chance paint you as a fool? Why/why not?
  • How can people skills minimize the risks we feel in giving someone a second chance?


So bring your personal perspective, your favorite beverage, and join the people skills global chat community this Sunday June 7, 2015 10am EDT on Twitter (hashtag: #peopleskills) to explore second chances.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining the Google+ People Skills Community and the LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to be a part of all the people skills discussions everyday 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Out of Gratitude

My gratitude to all who participate and grow the people skills global chat community on Twitter (#peopleskills), Google+, and LinkedIn. We welcome your suggestions for topics, offers to co-host, and most especially your individual insights.

Special thanks to generous chat moderators Dave Moore, Hoda Maalouf, Tracy Shroyer, Jandis Price, Chantal Bechervaise and Tom Rhodes for their time and insightful contributions.






Hope you will all join People Skills Global Chat on Twitter #peopleskills this Sunday June 7, 2015 10am EDT/7am PDT to explore the dynamics of second chances.

Everyone is welcome! We have only one rule in People Skills Global Chat: Respect for all even when we disagree.







TIP: If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Twubs.com or Tweetchat.com, enter hashtag #peopleskills, and sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Tchat.io, Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Chat with you this Sun. June 7th, 2015 10am EDT in People Skills Global Chat on Twitter (#peopleskills) TOPIC: Second Chances.


Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

©2015 Kate Nasser, CAS, Inc. Somerville, NJ. I appreciate your sharing the link to this post on your social streams. However, if you want to re-post or republish the content of this post, please email info@katenasser.com for permission and guidelines. Thank you for respecting intellectual capital.


Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.

 

 

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Love and Honor is our People Skills Global Twitter Chat Topic.

WHEN: Sunday May 24, 2015 at 10AM EDT. Hashtag: #peopleskills


Background on This Chat Topic: Love and Honor

Love and honor seem connected. Are they? Do they conflict at all? or Do we fear how much they are connected? JOIN us Sunday May 24th, 2015, Memorial Day weekend, as we explore love and honor.



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Love and Honor – A Deeper View

Love and honor are powerful emotions and momentous people skills. They have implications for our businesses, our careers, and our lives. The question is — Why? Where do they get their strength and power? Do they every conflict or are they naturally connected? JOIN us in this #peopleskills global Twitter chat to dig deeper on this topic.

Some questions to get us thinking in advance. Actual questions will post live during the chat.

  • What is honor?
  • How do values, society, and culture affect who/what we honor?
  • How are love and honor connected if at all?
  • Why are love and honor so powerful?
  • What brings people to feel love for others?
  • When are we most likely to express love to others?
  • Can honoring your own values stop you from loving others?
  • How do people skills affect our ability to love and honor others?
  • Should leaders and business love and honor their employees? Y/N/ Why/Why not? Pls. explain.
  • Is ‘honor’ something a person must earn?
  • How can we honor ourselves and is it important?
  • Whom would you like to honor today and why?


So bring your personal perspective, your favorite beverage, and join the people skills global chat community this Sunday May 24th , 2015 10am EDT on Twitter (hashtag: #peopleskills) to explore love and honor.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining the Google+ People Skills Community and the LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to be a part of all the people skills discussions everyday 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Out of Gratitude

My gratitude to all who participate and grow the people skills global chat community on Twitter (#peopleskills), Google+, and LinkedIn. We welcome your suggestions for topics, offers to co-host, and most especially your individual insights.

Special thanks to generous chat moderators Dave Moore, Hoda Maalouf, Tracy Shroyer, Jandis Price, Chantal Bechervaise and Tom Rhodes for their time and insightful contributions.






Hope you will all join People Skills Global Chat on Twitter #peopleskills this Sunday May 24th, 2015 10am EDT/7am PDT to explore love and honor.

Everyone is welcome! We have only one rule in People Skills Global Chat: Respect for all even when we disagree.







TIP: If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Twubs.com or Tweetchat.com, enter hashtag #peopleskills, and sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Tchat.io, Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Chat with you this Sun. May 24th, 2015 10am EDT in People Skills Global Chat on Twitter (#peopleskills) TOPIC: Love and Honor.


Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!


From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

©2015 Kate Nasser, CAS, Inc. Somerville, NJ. I appreciate your sharing the link to this post on your social streams. However, if you want to re-post or republish the content of this post, please email info@katenasser.com for permission and guidelines. Thank you for respecting intellectual capital.


Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.

 

 

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Respecting Boundaries: JOIN Us in People Skills Global Twitter Chat!

WHEN: Sunday April 19, 2015 at 10AM EDT. Hashtag: #peopleskills


Background on This Chat Topic: Respecting Boundaries

Last Sunday in #Peopleskills chat, we discussed expectations. We move on this week to the topic of respecting boundaries. There are people who do and people who don’t. There are people who often do and then in certain moments, don’t. How does this impact human interactions and relationships in personal life and in business?

Joining me as co-host this week is Dave Moore, creator of HPT-Transformation and people skills community moderator. HPT (Human Potential Technology) is concerned with transforming the context in which one views and experiences life. HPT does not change what one knows; it transforms the way in which one knows.”



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Respecting Boundaries: Let’s Discuss This!

Most people have a comfort zone and personal boundaries. Why? Perhaps boundaries are a matter of security UNTIL we trust someone. Or maybe they are always there at different heights. In any case they impact human interactions and are a great topic for our people skills chat.

Some questions to get us thinking in advance. Actual questions about respecting boundaries will post live during the chat.

  • What are personal boundaries? Examples?
  • Why do we have boundaries?
  • Where, when, and how do we develop them?
  • Do successful people have more or fewer boundaries?
  • People ignore/disrespect others’ boundaries because ________________.
  • How do you deal with someone who crosses over your boundaries?
  • What are the advantages and disadvantages to boundaries?
  • Healthy boundaries: What are they?
  • Are boundaries barriers to connection or pathways to stronger ones?
  • When you trust someone, how does it affect your boundaries?
  • How do people skills affect boundaries?


So bring your personal perspective, your favorite beverage, and join me and the people skills global chat community this Sunday April 19, 2015 10am EDT on Twitter (hashtag: #peopleskills) to discuss respecting boundaries.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining the Google+ People Skills Community and the LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to be a part of all the people skills discussions everyday 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Out of Gratitude

My gratitude to all who participate and grow the people skills global chat community on Twitter (#peopleskills), Google+, and LinkedIn. We welcome your suggestions for topics, offers to co-host, and most especially your individual insights.

Special and continued thanks to generous chat moderators Dave Moore (this week’s co-host), Chantal Bechervaise, Hoda Maalouf, Tracy Shroyer, Jandis Price and Tom Rhodes for their time and insightful contributions.






Hope you will all join People Skills Global Chat on Twitter #peopleskills this Sunday April 19, 2015 10am EDT/7am PDT to explore respecting boundaries.

Everyone is welcome! We have only one rule in People Skills Global Chat: Respect for all even when we disagree.







TIP: If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Twubs.com or Tweetchat.com, enter hashtag #peopleskills, and sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Tchat.io, Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Chat with you this Sun. April 19, 2015 10am EDT in People Skills Global Chat on Twitter (#peopleskills) TOPIC: Respecting Boundaries.


Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

©2015 Kate Nasser, CAS, Inc. Somerville, NJ. I appreciate your sharing the link to this post on your social streams. However, if you want to re-post or republish the content of this post, please email info@katenasser.com for permission and guidelines. Thank you for respecting intellectual capital.


Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.

 

 

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Engage in people skills learning! Let’s turn interaction obstacles into business success in leadership, teamwork, and customer service experience. I invite your questions, share my experience, and welcome your wisdom.

Leaders, Don’t Mislabel All Issues as Personality Conflict

Leaders who are averse to conflict, quickly mislabel interaction issues as — just a personality conflict.

It’s one of those feel good denial reactions that creates additional problems. Mislabelling it as a personality conflict ignites hidden resentments. It also fails miserably as it overlooks the true issues to be resolved. That’s not to say that a personality conflict can’t arise. It can.

Yet there are many other causes of interaction difficulty. People may have different definitions of team and teamwork. There may be low trust or little respect. It’s important to determine the true causes instead of writing it all off to just a personality conflict.



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An Illustration

A new leader (Bill) joined the leadership team. He has 5 peers and each oversees a different department. They and their teams must interact to deliver a wow customer experience. During the first week, Bill makes many demands on the peer he interacts with the most (Pat). He ultimately says to Pat, “I always get my way.”

When Pat requests a more team based approach, Bill takes offense. The high level leader (Lee) meets with Bill and Pat and says, “you two are having a personality conflict.”


Lee made a big mistake. He lost Pat’s trust that day. Assuming that two people who are having a conflict are having a personality conflict solves nothing. It also makes the leader (Lee) look weak and illogical.



What to Do Instead?

  • Establish and Honor a Baseline. Leaders who engage everyone in developing effective baseline behaviors pave the road to success. In today’s culturally diverse workplace, discussions expand understanding and prevent lots of conflicts. Once people establish baseline behaviors, it’s much easier to see errant behavior from a personality conflict.

    Important baseline behaviors to discuss:

    1. Behaviors for shared spaces
    2. Rules on texting during important meetings
    3. Acceptable ways to disagree and discuss strong views
    4. Handling aggressive and passive aggressive behavior


  • Dig to Discover. If the interaction issues in question are not errant behaviors, then find out what’s happening. To do this well, leaders must promise those who speak up that they will not be punished or minimized for the information they offer.

    It works well to have everyone involved to say what they are experiencing and what they would like to experience instead. This prevents gripe fests and discovers workable solutions.



  • Follow-through. Even if you are using HR or outside consultants to help you through this, leaders must stay involved. It is your expectation of improvement and your follow-through that bolsters employees’ commitment. Interaction affects the bottom line.

    Don’t just delegate this to someone and turn away. Assess, inspire, and stay involved.


Risks to Mislabeling Issues as Personality Conflict



  • Divisiveness. When leaders skip over discovering the trouble, the trouble persists. Un-addressed issues fester and feed frustration. Resentment grows as the leaders replace the truth with their assumptions of a personality conflict.


  • Mistrust and disrespect. Employees tap leaders for their insight, objectivity, strength, and honesty. When leaders tap dance around the issue instead of thinking it through, people lose trust and respect for those leaders. The loss of trust lingers and impacts the organization’s results.

  • Self-protection. When someone raises an issue about interaction problems and the leaders quickly pass it off as personality conflict, people think they are being punished for speaking up. After that, those who raised the issues go into self-protection mode. They block the open mindset needed for resolution and organizational success.

  • Weakened Core Values. The modern workplace is sustained with core values of respect, honesty, truth, and accountability. When leaders twist any situation into something it isn’t, it undermines interaction that could otherwise keep the organization moving forward. Whether it’s leader to leader, employee to employee, or leader and employee, discovering the true issues and addressing them appropriately secures the core values of success.





Most everyone can see the value in positive workplace interaction. What some leaders don’t see is that they play a key role in sustaining it through their accurate assessment. This doesn’t mean you are babysitting — a metaphor often misapplied in these moments. You are leading!

There is even evidence to show that employees leave jobs because of mislabelled un-addressed interpersonal issues that have made work intolerable. In the end, leaders who invest in sustaining the core values of interaction inspire collaboration and fuel success.


What other workplace behaviors is it valuable to discuss?



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Posts:
18 Things Respected Well-Liked Leaders Consistently Do
Leadership to Reverse a Hostile Workplace
Tapping the Profitable Secrets of Personality Types

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Teamwork Productivity: Why Can’t Everyone Automatically Get Along?


Leaders call me when they want teamwork productivity to improve. Their frustration pours out in the question:


Why can’t people just get along and stop the petty squabbles?”



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Teamwork Productivity: 21 Reasons Why Employees Can’t Just Get Along

There are many reasons why employees can’t automatically get along.

  1. They have different personality types and don’t know how to adapt or don’t want to.
  2. They feel overrun by mavericks on the team who don’t collaborate.
  3. Their low emotional intelligence keeps squabbles alive.
  4. Respect is low
  5. Trust is low.
  6. They have different personal career goals.
  7. They come from different cultures and with different mores.
  8. They are competing for a limited number of promotional opportunities.
  9. They have different habits which drive each other crazy.
  10. They have different definitions of team and teamwork.
  11. Teams goals and acceptable team behaviors aren’t clear.
  12. They have old baggage that affects today’s behavior.
  13. They slow or stop interacting to avoid conflict.
  14. There is bullying going on that you haven’t addressed or don’t even know about.
  15. They don’t know how to disagree in a productive way. Instead, they express thoughts and emotions in an aggressive way.
  16. Some who seem to work harder resent those who seem to work less.
  17. There are some team members who give orders to others instead of asking. “Get me those numbers right away!” This lowers teamwork productivity.
  18. You have a blame culture and people are pulling back to avoid failure.
  19. Change agents who are innovating are disrespecting past and current efforts. People take offense and interaction suffers. (FYI: You don’t have to demean the past to create the future.)
  20. Leaders aren’t forthright about upcoming changes and the rumor mill reduces teamwork and productivity.
  21. Leaders don’t express appreciation and recognition for employees’ work and talents so they don’t express it to each other. Low inspiration = low engagement and teamwork productivity.


When employees ask you, the leader, to help with these struggles, telling them to work it out themselves or stop complaining makes matters worse. If they could, they would.

Delegating it to someone else to handle won’t settle matters either.




What Does Work?

  • Ask, listen, and explore options. Involve the teams in making things better.
  • Redefine teamwork. Most leaders and teams are still defining it as a group of people working toward common goals and results. And you see where that’s gotten you. A team actually is: people growing, changing, and adapting to reach a shared success. If you don’t include growing, changing, adapting in your definition of a team, people work on common goals purely from their own style and view. You then end up on the list of 21 troubles.
  • As a leader, increase your emotional self-awareness and emotional intelligence. Leadership is about inspiring and influencing others. This creates a better work environment and minimizes the 21 troubles.
  • Tap outside help. Independent team builders bring specialized expertise, fresh perspectives, objectivity, and the ability to say things that insiders can’t risk saying.


Most importantly, don’t let these troubles fester. Although you can’t prevent all of them, you can address interaction troubles as they surface. Left alone, these struggles become long held grudges with insurmountable barriers.




In your experience, what else stops people from working well together?



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Posts:
Teamwork Productivity: 5 Essentials to Build 21st Century Teams
Modern Leadership & Teamwork: Be Selfless Not Faceless
18 Things Respected Well-Liked Leaders Consistently Do
One Giant Communication Blunder & One Easy Fix

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Healthcare People Skills: JOIN us in #Peopleskills chat share your view.

WHEN: Sunday March 22, 2015 at 10AM EDT. Hashtag: #peopleskills


Background on This Chat Topic: Healthcare People Skills

How do doctors, nurses, physician assistants, physical therapists, medical assistants and medical technicians treat you? I don’t mean the medical treatments they give you. I mean how good are their people skills? Do they show empathy? Do they listen? Do they respond well to questions or rush about and cut you off? Our #Peopleskills Twitter chat explores healthcare people skills this Sunday.

My wonderful co-host is Dr. Gia Sison. Dr. Sison is a practicing physician, breast cancer survivor, and first Philippine leader of Livestrong Foundation. She is a powerful voice on social media about healthcare and healing. She faclitates the #HealthXPh Twitter chat and lends her voice to other online healthcare convos.



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Healthcare People Skills: Do They Matter?

Do healthcare providers still care about bedside manner? Do medical, nursing, and physical therapy schools highlight it? Do they teach the importance of listening and getting the patient’s story? JOIN us in #Peopleskills global Twitter chat to explore healthcare people skills.

Some questions to get us thinking in advance. Actual questions will post live during the chat.

  • When you are the patient, how important are the people skills of those treating you?
  • What people skills are important in providing excellent healthcare?
  • What happens when medical office staff and those providing direct care have poor people skills?
  • How can healthcare providers & staff be more open to patient questions?
  • Think of the doctors you truly like and trust? How do they behave? Why do you like and trust them?
  • How do cultural differences impact people skills and healthcare?
  • How can everyone involved in delivering healthcare develop better people skills?


So bring your personal perspective, your favorite beverage, and join me and the people skills global chat community this Sunday March 22, 2015 on Twitter (hashtag: #peopleskills) to explore healthcare people skills.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining the Google+ People Skills Community and the LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to be a part of all the people skills discussions everyday 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Out of Gratitude

Special thanks to my co-host this week Dr. Gia Sison. My gratitude to all who participate and grow the people skills global chat community on Twitter (#peopleskills), Google+, and LinkedIn. We welcome your suggestions for topics, offers to co-host, and most especially your individual insights.

Continued thanks to generous chat moderators Chantal Bechervaise, Dave Moore, Hoda Maalouf, Tracy Shroyer, Jandis Price and Tom Rhodes for their time and insightful contributions.






Hope you will all join People Skills Global Chat on Twitter #peopleskills this Sunday March 22, 2015 10am EDT/7am PDT to healthcare people skills.

Everyone is welcome! We have only one rule in People Skills Global Chat: Respect for all even when we disagree.







TIP: If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Twubs.com or Tweetchat.com, enter hashtag #peopleskills, and sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Tchat.io, Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Chat with you this Sun. March 22, 2015 10am EDT in People Skills Global Chat on Twitter (#peopleskills) TOPIC: Healthcare People Skills.


Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!


From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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Respected Well-Liked Leaders: The Things They Always Do

I continue to hear leaders say they must choose between being respected and being liked. The good news is it’s not true. Moreover, it is important not to trade one for the other. Respected well-liked leaders inspire, engage, and foster organizational success.



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Respected Well-Liked Leaders: 18 Things They Consistently Do!

  1. Respected well-liked leaders are like-able but they don’t seek to be liked at every moment. They don’t avoid situations just to be liked.

  2. They communicate with honesty and civility not bluntness and disdain.

  3. Respected well-liked leaders take time to get to know people. They don’t come on at the beginning like everyone’s best friend. They show comfort in leadership and over time in friendship.

  4. Respected well-liked leaders appreciate and recognize effort and talent as much as results and success. They understand and accept the human need for appreciation and encouragement. Leaders who think that praise weakens teams weaken their teams by skipping the praise.

  5. They are confident and humble. Respected well-liked leaders illustrate how to be self-assured while sharing the spotlight with others. They are selfless not faceless.

  6. They are open-minded not indecisive. They listen and consider many views and weigh in with their expertise. They know that empowerment is not abandonment. They know when to tell, when to ask; when to wait and when to take action.

  7. In difficult moments, they give empathy as well as possible solutions. Respected leaders use their expertise and vision to solve problems. Respected well-liked leaders attend to the human needs as well.

  8. Respected well-liked leaders rise above their own pet peeves. By focusing on others’ needs instead of their own personal preferences, leaders become respected as well as liked. Those who constantly expect everyone to cater to their personal preferences are disrespected and disliked.

  9. They improve their high emotional intelligence every day. Respected well-liked leaders develop their social skills to greet people warmly. They evolve their self-awareness to be the model of self-regulation.

  10. Respected well-liked leaders are optimistic and realistic. They have healthy skepticism without being pessimistic and jaded.

  11. They create an environment where it is safe to innovate and change. Change can be scary. Respected well-liked leaders don’t quarantine their courage. They make it contagious!

  12. They show up fully for themselves and others every day. They energize others and model true contribution.

  13. Respected well-liked leaders live and exhibit love of diversity. They don’t create clones; they spot and develop diverse talent. Who wouldn’t respect and like that!


  14. Respected well-liked leaders put the “we go” before the ego.

  15. They put themselves on the line with their teams. They address unfairness, bullying, cliques, chronic complainers, and slackers. You never hear them say, “just work it out yourselves.”

  16. Respected well-liked leaders seek and inspire excellence, not perfectionism. Their reasonableness has room for forgiveness that develops a valuable culture of learning and accountability.

  17. Respected well-liked leaders are a buoy (not the buoy) of inspiration and balance. Their energy and light guide everyone from the gray zone of confusion to the end zone of success. The team members then buoy each other.

  18. They communicate very well. Their words and tone inspire greatness without leaving scars. They reach others they don’t preach to others. They call everyone to change and grow while honoring who they are. This is why these leaders are respected and well-liked.



What is your fav on this list & what would you add to this list?



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Posts:
Leadership Video (2.5 min): Be A Buoy of Inspiration & Balance
Leaders, 10 Ways to Ignite Greatness Without Leaving Scars
Leadership: People Skills to Reverse a Hostile Workplace

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Forgiveness: JOIN us in #Peopleskills chat to explore this.

WHEN: Sunday March 15th, 2015 at 10AM EDT. Hashtag: #peopleskills


Background on This Chat Topic: Forgiveness at Work and In Life

A recent article in Forbes magazine caught my eye. Forgiveness – The Least Understood Leadership Trait. The opening line of the article draws you in.

It hooked me with the claim that online search for leadership and forgiveness produced little if any results. It made me stop and ask myself how often have I heard forgiveness discussed in business? Not often. It made me wonder, why not?



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Forgiveness: Is It Important in Business?

There are so many dimensions to this question. Here are some to get us all thinking before our people skills Twitter chat on Sunday.

  • What does it mean to forgive and what does it do for us?
  • What is the opposite of forgiveness and the impact of it?
  • It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend. ~William Blake Ag/Dis Why?
  • Can you be too forgiving? Are there risks to it?
  • Forgiveness and trust: How do they relate?
  • Does forgiveness turn an enemy into a trusted friend or can you forgive but not forget?
  • Is forgiveness all or nothing or are some things unforgivable?
  • Humility and forgiveness: Are they essential to each other? Pls. explain.
  • Does forgiveness foster and feed selfish behavior in others? Pls. expl.
  • What are the business benefits of forgiveness?
  • How does forgiveness impact accountability? Y/N Pls. explain.
  • Should leaders actively develop their capacity to forgive? Why/why not?
  • What is the difference between being forgiving vs avoiding conflict?
  • In business that believes in forgiveness, should it be an individual choice or a core value all must live?
  • Forgiveness, mistakes, and learning: How do they relate?
  • How can leaders practice forgiveness at work and still focus on profit?
  • How can people skills foster forgiveness in work and life?



These are just some questions to get us thinking before we begin the people skills chat this Sunday. Actual questions will post live during the chat.

So bring your personal perspective, your favorite beverage, and join me and the people skills global chat community this Sunday March 15, 2015 on Twitter (hashtag: #peopleskills) to explore forgiveness at work and in life.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining the Google+ People Skills Community and the LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to be a part of all the people skills discussions everyday 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Out of Gratitude

My gratitude to all who participate and grow the people skills global chat community on Twitter (#peopleskills), Google+, and LinkedIn. We welcome your suggestions for topics, offers to co-host, and most especially your individual insights.

Continued thanks to generous chat moderators Chantal Bechervaise, Dave Moore, Hoda Maalouf, Tracy Shroyer, Jandis Price and Tom Rhodes for their time and insightful contributions.






Hope you will all join People Skills Global Chat on Twitter #peopleskills this Sunday March 15, 2015 10am EDT/7am PDT to explore if forgiveness at work and in life.

Everyone is welcome! We have only one rule in People Skills Global Chat: Respect for all even when we disagree.







TIP: If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Twubs.com or Tweetchat.com, enter hashtag #peopleskills, and sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Tchat.io, Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Chat with you this Sun. March 15, 2015 10am EDT in People Skills Global Chat on Twitter (#peopleskills) TOPIC: Forgiveness at Work and Life.


Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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People Skills Excellence – Our Chat Topic.


WHEN/WHERE: Join us Sunday Feb 22nd, 2015 on Twitter at 10AM ET. Hashtag: #peopleskills


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People Skills Excellence – How to Develop It?

Join us Sunday Feb. 22nd 10am ET to explore people skills excellence. People skills feed success in business, careers, and relationships. Our ability to interact well affects our very lives. So what is people skills excellence and how do we develop it?




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People Skills Excellence: Why and How?

There are so many factors that contribute to how humans interact. Is it actually possible to achieve some level of people skills excellence? Really?

Some questions to get us thinking in advance of Sunday’s #Peopleskills global Twitter chat. If you want to suggest a question, please post it in the comments section below!

  • What is people skills excellence?
  • How are people skills important/unimportant in life?
  • When do they most affect you?
  • In such a diverse world, it is possible to achieve people skills excellence?
  • What is your reaction to someone who has poor people skills?
  • How do values and goals affect people skills development?
  • In search of people skills excellence – what are the most important steps?
  • Personality types: what impact does that have on developing people skills excellence?
  • What people skills have you developed in the past that help you the most now?
  • How can we achieve people skills excellence online?
  • What guidance would you give to someone who struggles with human interaction?
  • How does society help or hinder the development of people skills excellence?



These are just some questions to get us thinking. Actual questions will post live during the chat.


Bring your experience, curiosity, a beverage, and join the community on Sunday Feb. 22nd 10am ET to explore people skills excellence.


I also invite you to continue this chat by joining the Google+ People Skills Community, The Facebook Group People Skills That Really Matter and the LinkedIn Group People Skills Succeed to be a part of all the people skills discussions everyday 24×7. Get your people skills community member badge here.



Shout Out of Gratitude

My gratitude to all who participate and grow the people skills global community on Twitter (#peopleskills), Google+, LinkedIn, and Facebook. We welcome your suggestions for topics, offers to co-host, and most especially your diverse insights.

Continued thanks to generous chat moderators Chantal Bechervaise, Dave Moore, Hoda Maalouf, Tracy Shroyer, Jandis Price and Tom Rhodes for their time and contributions.






Hope you will all join people skills global Twitter chat (#peopleskills) this Sunday Feb. 22nd 2015, 10am ET/7am PT people skills excellence.

Everyone is welcome! We have only one rule in People Skills Global Chat: Respect for all even when we disagree.






TIP: If you have never been in a Twitter chat, you may find it helpful to log on to Tweetchat.com, or Twubs.com and enter hashtag #peopleskills. Sign in to your Twitter account. The venue will insert the hashtag on each of your tweets and you will see all the tweets on one screen. Other tools available are Tchat.io, Hootsuite and TweetDeck.

I am the founder and host of the chat and will be happy to answer any questions you have in advance: Email me.


Connect with you this Sun. Feb. 22nd, 2015, in #peopleskills global Twitter chat 10am ET on people skills excellence.


Until then, as always, I wish you bonds of happiness and success!

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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Bluntness Checklist: 7 Steps From Brutally Blunt to Helpfully Honest

We all benefit when we communicate honestly and clearly. It minimizes confusion and speeds success. Yet there is a big difference between being brutally blunt vs. honest and clear.





Here’s a 7 step bluntness checklist to get you easily from blunt to honest.



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Bluntness Checklist:7 Steps from Brutally Blunt to Helpfully Honest

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Bluntness Checklist: 7 Steps From Brutally Blunt to Helpfully Honest

How do you want people to feel when you are communicating? Bruised and battered? Clear and uplifted?

What image do they have of you when you are communicating? Do they see you as emotionally intelligent and honest or brutally blunt?

This bluntness checklist is an emotionally intelligent guide.



    #1 Honor people as well as your purpose and message.

      Much of the bluntness comes from focusing purely on the message you want to deliver. Oddly enough, it makes the message less clear because your emotion packed statement blocks listening.

      Before speaking, ask yourself what impact your words will have on others. Honesty without honoring the human comes out as blunt. This is why honor heads up the bluntness checklist. Be honest with care not blunt with emotion.



    #2 Openness to other possibilities makes you less blunt.

      What you say is rarely an absolute fact. There are perspective, conditions, opinions, other possibilities to consider. When you communicate from this belief, you are more likely to have an honest dialogue with people instead of a blunt monologue.




    #3 Never start a sentence with the word “you” in difficult situations.

      Imagine saying, “You aren’t doing your job” or “You are failing badly.” Starting with “you” comes across as a blunt attack and breeds a defensive reply.

      Instead, start with “We expect _______ and this is what you are doing _______. Let’s talk about changes _________.” Now the person can hear your message with specifics on what to change.



    #4 Emotion in negative situations will come out as brutally blunt.

      First say, “Let’s put aside my emotion for a moment” and then communicate. It shows the other person you want to speak honestly without insulting them. If some of it comes out blunt, at least they will know you are trying.

      However, do not use this intro as a justification for being blunt. It doesn’t work. More of your words must honor with honesty than bruise with bluntness.



    #5 Sense of proportion reduces the brutality.

      Bluntness, by definition, is the extreme of communication. Bluntness is emotion packed. Ask yourself, why must I use this extreme and inflict scars? What words, with better proportion, can clearly communicate my message?



    #6 Timing and tone of voice transform results.

      When some people read the word timing, they assume delay. Although you might choose to delay speaking, there are times you can’t or shouldn’t. Yet timing also means the pace of your speech.

      The faster you speak in tough moments, the more brutal it sounds. Meanwhile, speaking too slowly or softly can sound patronizing.

      A normal even pace of speech communicates honesty avoids bluntness. This is why timing is on the bluntness checklist.



    #7 Yes. Thinking “agreement” makes you less blunt.

      Insults rarely produce a yes. Helpful honesty does. If you want to influence, think yes. Replace negative emotion with positive desire — what you want vs. what you don’t want. It transforms your communication from hurtful and blunt to honest and positive.

      Even if agreement is not your goal, think “yes” and your words will be more helpfully honest not brutally blunt.






Respect is the key to being honest vs. blunt. It allows you to honor people as well as your own message. If you disagree, state your view with calmness and respect for others.

The question people often ask me: Are there people with whom you must be brutally blunt? No. I have met people who don’t understand subtle communication. In those moments, I was more direct not brutally blunt. I still respected them. I communicated honestly not bluntly.


This 7 step bluntness checklist will transform any blunt communication into helpful honesty. It’s worth it!





What extra steps are on your bluntness checklist?



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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