Comments on: The Negative Side to Being Positive. http://katenasser.com/the-negative-side-to-being-positive/#utm_source=feed&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=feed The People-Skills Coach Tue, 07 Sep 2010 17:55:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Kate Nasser http://katenasser.com/the-negative-side-to-being-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-652 Kate Nasser Sun, 12 Jul 2009 20:01:04 +0000 http://katenasser.com/?p=802#comment-652 Lynne, I am glad you find the 3 steps helpful. Also, I love your phrase - "give them some space to express their discouragement." Perfect. Thanks for contributing to this post. Best, Kate Nasser, The People-Skills Coach Lynne,
I am glad you find the 3 steps helpful. Also, I love your phrase – “give them some space to express their discouragement.” Perfect.
Thanks for contributing to this post.
Best,
Kate Nasser, The People-Skills Coach

]]> By: Lynn Marie Caissie http://katenasser.com/the-negative-side-to-being-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-651 Lynn Marie Caissie Fri, 10 Jul 2009 21:47:34 +0000 http://katenasser.com/?p=802#comment-651 Kate, I always knew this, but hadn't ever found a way to put it in words. I appreciate very much that you did. 3 steps for building trust through respect - simple and straightforward. Perfect. I am in transition, and have been so for about a year. I am unflaggingly positive: there's something to grasp and learn at every turn. I'm not sure the hordes of others in transition with me are so willing to embrace this as an opportunity. I've learned that being personally positive is an inspiration to them, but they have to work through their stuff on their own. The only other helpful thing I can do is acknowledge where they're at and give them some space to express their discouragement. Kate,

I always knew this, but hadn’t ever found a way to put it in words. I appreciate very much that you did. 3 steps for building trust through respect – simple and straightforward. Perfect.

I am in transition, and have been so for about a year. I am unflaggingly positive: there’s something to grasp and learn at every turn. I’m not sure the hordes of others in transition with me are so willing to embrace this as an opportunity. I’ve learned that being personally positive is an inspiration to them, but they have to work through their stuff on their own. The only other helpful thing I can do is acknowledge where they’re at and give them some space to express their discouragement.

]]> By: Kelly Gabel http://katenasser.com/the-negative-side-to-being-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-649 Kelly Gabel Tue, 07 Jul 2009 14:13:24 +0000 http://katenasser.com/?p=802#comment-649 Great article, Kate. Everything you noted was right on the mark. Well done! Kelly L. Gabel, M.Acc, CPA Manager, HR/Marketing Amper, Politziner & Mattia, LLP Great article, Kate. Everything you noted was right on the mark. Well done!
Kelly L. Gabel, M.Acc, CPA
Manager, HR/Marketing
Amper, Politziner & Mattia, LLP

]]> By: Kate Nasser http://katenasser.com/the-negative-side-to-being-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-648 Kate Nasser Tue, 07 Jul 2009 12:21:20 +0000 http://katenasser.com/?p=802#comment-648 From Brian Curry (Used with his permission) Hi Kate, There's a lot of truth in this article, and yes, it can become patronizing. I just switch off. Regards, Brian From Brian Curry (Used with his permission)
Hi Kate,
There’s a lot of truth in this article, and yes, it can become patronizing. I just switch off.
Regards,
Brian

]]> By: Michael Winwood http://katenasser.com/the-negative-side-to-being-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-647 Michael Winwood Tue, 07 Jul 2009 12:13:15 +0000 http://katenasser.com/?p=802#comment-647 Being positive and offering challenge are two distinct aspects of how we might work with and nurture people we care about or are wanting to motivate. My experience tells me to keep them both apparent and real along with empathy and appreciation. Michael Being positive and offering challenge are two distinct aspects of how we might work with and nurture people we care about or are wanting to motivate. My experience tells me to keep them both apparent and real along with empathy and appreciation.
Michael

]]> By: Larry Bradley http://katenasser.com/the-negative-side-to-being-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-645 Larry Bradley Tue, 07 Jul 2009 11:19:48 +0000 http://katenasser.com/?p=802#comment-645 Wonderful article and right to the point. Firm believer in leading by example not by "herding" anyone along the path. Wonderful article and right to the point. Firm believer in leading by example not by “herding” anyone along the path.

]]> By: Jyotsna Nath http://katenasser.com/the-negative-side-to-being-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-644 Jyotsna Nath Mon, 06 Jul 2009 22:34:02 +0000 http://katenasser.com/?p=802#comment-644 Hello Kate, I agree with your thoughts on being positive and over positive. Sometimes a lot of us tend to go far from reality and rationale trying to stay or look positive. That does not mean that I’m always very rational but I try to stay positive without disregarding the limitations or challenges involved. Hello Kate, I agree with your thoughts on being positive and over positive. Sometimes a lot of us tend to go far from reality and rationale trying to stay or look positive. That does not mean that I’m always very rational but I try to stay positive without disregarding the limitations or challenges involved.

]]> By: Steve Williamson http://katenasser.com/the-negative-side-to-being-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-643 Steve Williamson Mon, 06 Jul 2009 17:28:10 +0000 http://katenasser.com/?p=802#comment-643 Another excellent article Kate. Those three tools, when used correctly, create some interesting conversations and great relationships. Thanks, Steve Another excellent article Kate. Those three tools, when used correctly, create some interesting conversations and great relationships.
Thanks,
Steve

]]> By: Kate Nasser http://katenasser.com/the-negative-side-to-being-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-642 Kate Nasser Mon, 06 Jul 2009 14:30:19 +0000 http://katenasser.com/?p=802#comment-642 From Marleen G. (with her permission) Go Kate! I love this. No one is positive all the time but some people pretend to be. I like to make lemonade out of life's lemons, but I would not be honest if I said I was always positive. However, I try not to be too negative and try to turn my negative thoughts into a positive solutions when I can. From Marleen G. (with her permission)
Go Kate! I love this. No one is positive all the time but some people pretend to be. I like to make lemonade out of life’s lemons, but I would not be honest if I said I was always positive. However, I try not to be too negative and try to turn my negative thoughts into a positive solutions when I can.

]]> By: julie http://katenasser.com/the-negative-side-to-being-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-641 julie Mon, 06 Jul 2009 14:19:26 +0000 http://katenasser.com/?p=802#comment-641 Kate, this is a great post. I'm also a positive person, but I like to think of myself as a positive realist. I believe in facing reality squarely while choosing to enjoy what I can in any situation. But positive attitude cannot be pushed on others. You're right, it often backfires. I think we just have to lead by example. Thanks for this post. Kate, this is a great post. I’m also a positive person, but I like to think of myself as a positive realist. I believe in facing reality squarely while choosing to enjoy what I can in any situation.

But positive attitude cannot be pushed on others. You’re right, it often backfires. I think we just have to lead by example.

Thanks for this post.

]]> By: Kate Nasser http://katenasser.com/the-negative-side-to-being-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-640 Kate Nasser Mon, 06 Jul 2009 14:16:27 +0000 http://katenasser.com/?p=802#comment-640 Joe & Pattie -- Spot on! Joe & Pattie — Spot on!

]]> By: Pattie Roberts http://katenasser.com/the-negative-side-to-being-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-639 Pattie Roberts Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:26:34 +0000 http://katenasser.com/?p=802#comment-639 Very interesting twist on positivity, Kate. I agree with your steps, and would say that following them with an open mind and heart can have a "passively positive" effect. Nobody wants to be "herded," even if such herding can improve the quality of their lives. As you say, people choose how to live, and there is nothing more important than respecting the right to choose. So I would add that passive positivity (e.g., "Happy Monday!"; "Cute purse!"; "Let me get that door for you") that doesn't challenge a person's choices, but that also allows me to be who I am in everyday life, could be helpful. There's a yin and yang to everything, no? Happy Monday to all! Very interesting twist on positivity, Kate. I agree with your steps, and would say that following them with an open mind and heart can have a “passively positive” effect. Nobody wants to be “herded,” even if such herding can improve the quality of their lives. As you say, people choose how to live, and there is nothing more important than respecting the right to choose. So I would add that passive positivity (e.g., “Happy Monday!”; “Cute purse!”; “Let me get that door for you”) that doesn’t challenge a person’s choices, but that also allows me to be who I am in everyday life, could be helpful.

There’s a yin and yang to everything, no?

Happy Monday to all!

]]> By: Joe Williams http://katenasser.com/the-negative-side-to-being-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-638 Joe Williams Sun, 05 Jul 2009 23:58:16 +0000 http://katenasser.com/?p=802#comment-638 Fabulous post, Kate. Since I share your positive outlook on the world, I read your words very carefully. I concur with all three of your steps. In particular, for #1 I approach with this question for the recipient: "I have some feedback for you-would you like to receive it?" If the person says no, I don't share it at that time and wait for another opportunity when I get a "Yes." Fabulous post, Kate. Since I share your positive outlook on the world, I read your words very carefully. I concur with all three of your steps. In particular, for #1 I approach with this question for the recipient: “I have some feedback for you-would you like to receive it?” If the person says no, I don’t share it at that time and wait for another opportunity when I get a “Yes.”

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