Assertiveness Benefits Everyone No Guessing Required! | #PeopleSkills
by Kate Nasser | 4 Comments »
When we think of being assertive, do we see that assertiveness benefits everyone? We often think of being assertive as helping ourselves. However, if we see how assertiveness benefits everyone, we can actually do it without running over others. So let’s look at how assertiveness benefits everyone.
Assertiveness Benefits Everyone – No Guessing Required!
Let’s think of all the ways our assertiveness helps others.
Assertively facing our own fears benefits everyone. We develop our own inner strength and lean less on others. We also inspire others through our courage.
People don’t have to guess what we are thinking. Being assertive means being clear without being blunt, hurtful, or rude. Everyone benefits.
Generously offering our individual talents. Our assertiveness benefits everyone when we give of ourselves. Step forward, see if they want help, and then share your talents!
Bringing new ideas to light. We each have different views that can help solve problems. Instead of hanging back, be assertive to share your ideas respectfully. It benefits everyone.
Be assertive to take on responsibility. Be assertive not only for what we need and want but also for what we will do for others. It shares the load in a work setting and at home.
Step forward and be assertive in apologizing for our mistakes. Instead of hiding like children, we show ultimate respect when we assert a sincere apology for how we have hurt others.
Assertively express gratitude for others. Yes, let’s remember that being assertive means thanking others! Assertiveness is not just for ourselves.
Stand up for others. When others are being bullied or wrongly accused, step up and speak up. Assertiveness benefits everyone when we insist on respect for all.
Assertiveness Benefits Everyone as We Share the Load
Assertiveness Benefits Everyone at Work and Home
When leaders model assertiveness, they benefit everyone they lead. They create a culture of great communication, respect for all, and high performance. When team members offer their ideas and help share the load, their assertiveness benefits everyone. Each time we assert our needs, our courage, and our generosity, everyone benefits.
If you have worried that people will not like you if you are assertive, think again. Your assertiveness benefits everyone. It helps them grow and shares their load. It is not a selfish act. Rather it expresses everything you have to offer.
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™
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There was a time early in my career that I thought my boss didn’t like me. Instead of letting anger and frustration build on both sides (mine and his) I chose to be assertive and privately address our relationship head-on. It turned out we both had some misconceptions about what was going on and after that conversation, we were allies who together were better able to serve our customer and better able to lead our team to success.
Great points on how assertiveness benefits everyone. When we’re courageous, we create ripples that go beyond our own life and leadership.
Your story is a shining example of how assertiveness is nothing like bravado or bullying. It is the courage to be clear and to listen clearly to others.
I am so grateful each time you share these types of personal examples Alli. You enlighten many through your own blog and through your comments on other posts like mine.
I have always been a believer in being an assertive communicator as it not only helps me be clear, open and direct but it also reminds me to be respectful of the other person’s point of view. It is definitely showing gratitude for others as you mentioned in your post which helps us build stronger connections with everyone we work with.
Well done Kate!
Thank you Terri for underscoring that assertiveness is not about conquering others or being selfish. It’s all about building stronger connections through clear two-way respectful communication.