Does Avoiding Conflict Make You Seem Detached & Arrogant? | #PeopleSkills
by Kate Nasser |
Avoiding conflict can make you seem detached and arrogant. Surprised to read this? If your mind is saying that’s ridiculous, then it may be happening to you. The way you deal with your fear of conflict impacts how others see you.
Avoiding Conflict Can Make You Seem Detached & Arrogant
Don’t lots of people have a fear of conflict? How can it make you seem detached and arrogant? Well, fear of conflict doesn’t create the image. How you behave while avoiding conflict does.
When you think a discussion could lead to verbal conflict, do you …
Go silent and say nothing?
Look away from the person speaking?
Say nothing and leave?
Come back around when you feel safe?
If you read this list from your view of being safe, you won’t see it as arrogant and detached. Now picture yourself doing these things when you aren’t avoiding conflict. How does your total silence, turning away, leaving with no explanation look to you now? Not so positive? It can paint you as detached, rude, and even arrogant. If you then come back around and engage when you feel safe, you can seem manipulative. This image can stick to you and hurt you.
Avoiding Conflict: Prevent the Detached, Arrogant, Manipulative Image
When you fear that verbal conflict may happen, don’t go silent. In your personal life, you can tell others you don’t want to discuss the topic. Then if they continue and you turn away or leave, they will know why. If you are silent and give no information, you can seem rude, detached, and arrogant.
At work, you can’t always say that you don’t want to discuss a work topic. However, if emotions are rising and you are uncomfortable, you can ask others to speak respectfully to you. Once again if you are completely silent or turn away, they may see you as rude and arrogant.
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™
Speak Sooner to Prevent Needless Conflict
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