Beneath the Exterior, What Do Leaders See in You?
by Kate Nasser |
If you want career success, ask yourself what leaders and others actually see in you? Then realize that your own perspective is often very different than the outside view.
“O would some power the gift to give us to see ourselves as others see us.” ~Robert Burns
Beneath the exterior, what are they seeing, what are they missing, and what are they misinterpreting? Figure this out, fix it, and you will steer your career to personal happiness and success.
Do Your Own 3600 Inventory w/Family & Friends
Gather input from trusted family members who can be objective. Tap friends and people in different generations for their unbiased view.
- Character. Ask them for one word to describe your characater and one example to illustrate it. Create this list and reflect on it. Is it what you expected? Is it you? From your perspective, what is missing? Is there a gap? Close the gap and you open the door to success.
- Beliefs. Ask them to tell you what your behavior and actions say about your beliefs and what you value.
Actions speak louder than words. What do your actions tell others about your true values and view of a good life? Would leaders in your dream work tap you based on that view?
If not, you may get trapped in the gap. Either show them those true values with your actions or consider what dream work matches your true values!
The best career advice I ever got: First figure out what kind of life you want, then pick your career. For example, if you value a lifestyle of possessions and want to earn a living as an artist, there is a risk you will get trapped in the gap. How will you eliminate the gap?
The most helpful personal insight I received: You value having a voice, living your values to help others through your work, and determining your own life path. (By the way, they were right.) My happiness and success started 23 years ago when I became self-employed.
- Talents and Natural Abilities. Ask them, what do you see as my natural abilities? Write them all down. See which ones show up multiple times. Is your current work truly drawing on these natural strengths?
Which strength is hidden beneath your exterior? Your happiness will languish in your hidden strengths. Peel back the exterior and expose your hidden strength. Make note of where you use this strength in your personal life and it will guide you to your dream work where it naturally applies.
The sum of your character, beliefs, and talents becomes your personal career portfolio for finding success and happiness.
Your portfolio is you. It goes beyond letters of recommendation, references, and a resume.
Whether you are unsure about what you want, already working in your desired career, or transitioning to your dream work, peel away the exterior layers to find who you really are and show them what you can truly do.
There is nothing quite as sublime as living an authentic life.
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People-Skills Coach™
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