20 Change Resistor Responses & Their Real Meaning
by Kate Nasser | 6 Comments »
Change Resistor Responses & What They Really Mean
Leaders and managers know that change is not easy. Overcoming change resistance is not easy either. Being able to spot it is vital. Here are 20 change resistor responses and what they really mean.
20 Change Resistor Responses & What They Really Mean
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Straightforward.
- We don’t support this.
- We’ve heard this before.
- We’ve seen this before.
- We’ve been there before.
- We’ve tried this before.
- We’ve proven this futile before.
- Where’s the data to prove it will work?
- Here’s why this won’t work.
- This is difficult, isn’t it?
- This is distressing news.
- This is a disturbing development.
- Do you know the trouble this can make?
- This is very alarming.
- Sudden changes can have dire consequences.
- How on earth do you expect us to do this?
- We were doing a great job. There’s no need for a change.
- I guess the pawns don’t get a say in this.
- We could have achieved it if given more time.
- You don’t understand the way things work here.
- You’re too new to know what’s right.
… change resistor way of saying we’re not interested.
Logical Denials.
… means we think our logic can stop the change.
Neutral Negating.
… means we can stall the change by being neutral and not taking action.
Sounding the Alarm.
… means we can stop the change if we raise fears.
Unfair Trip.
… change resistor way of saying this is unfair to us.
Excluding Outsiders.
… means we can stop the change if we label change agents as uninformed and not credible.
It’s easy to get caught up in change resistor responses. As you address each response, you get caught in their inertia. This doesn’t help them and it doesn’t help the change. Change gets tougher when leaders stop leading.
To lead change well, answer true questions. Don’t answer statements nor statements masquerading as questions. Inspire, inform, and move everyone ahead. It gives each change resistor the best chance at growing and thriving. It moves them past crippling fears.
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™
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It can be so hard to stop and say “I hear you” instead of steamrolling the change. People want to know that their concerns are heard during times of change. Thanks for helping people hear the message beneath the words.
~ Alli
Thanks Alli. We all need to hear it and help everyone not get stuck in the fears!
Best,
Kate
Great post Kate!
I read each line and thought of specific examples that those phrases have been used!
Really understanding and knowing why those responses are coming up is so important!
Do they need more direction or more support?
Do they have unanswered questions?
Do they not understand the vision?
Do they just need time to process the change?
Are they completely tapped with other change related projects and really can’t handle one more thing at this time?
Is their ego threatened by the change agents?
Or are they really change resistant? (I have found very few people in this category.) Usually there is a reason for those questions.
Great questions Chery. It’s always important to think through what’s behind the resistance. I noticed you said that very few are change resistant. If you look at that phrase as change resistant forever I agree. Yet while people are temporarily resisting change, they are change resistant and I’ve seen it take hold. There are leaders who get stuck in the analysis of why and spend extended time trying to convince people. They think that taking more “time” will undo the change resistance.
Time alone does not do it. Many people are moved by seeing the positive results of change. So paradoxically, they must move past change resistance to lower change resistance! Great leaders know how to do this and bring everyone along.
Many thanks for expanding this discussion,
Kate
Hi Kate, Great points in your article and Alli and Chery’s comments gave me more to think about. Having done integration work with M&As, I know the importance that respect, compassion and empathy can play during change initiatives. To that end, listening with an open mind and heart and being responsive to feedback can go along way in getting folks on board. It can also be key to adapting an initiative that is absolutely not right.
Terri
Wonderful summary Terri — respect, compassion, empathy. These are the underpinnings of servant leadership that leads change with understanding without contributing to inertia.
Thanks,
Kate