Cooperation: Why DO We Sweat the Small Stuff? #PeopleSkills #LeadMorale
by Kate Nasser |
Why do people make cooperation difficult? As The People Skills Coach™, I hear many leaders ask, “Why can’t everyone just get along?” In these cases, the leaders aren’t referring to substantive differences of opinion.
Instead, they are frustrated by people’s unwillingness to work through differences. So, it begs the question:
Well I have written much about the challenges of personality type, cultural, and generational differences. Yet, none of these differences actually stop people from working through differences. So what blocks cooperation?
Cooperation: Joining In or Giving In?
For people who see life as a competition, cooperation seems like surrender. To them, it is giving in not joining in.
In their mind there is winning and losing. There is conquer or be conquered. These all feel like failure and quite possibly, humiliation.
If you want people to work together, show them that there are more than two choices. There is …
- Exploring options and discovering common ground
- Mutual success through collaboration
- Listening to show respect and communicating to move forward
- Honor and dignity in the give and take of ideas
Cooperation: A New View
“We must reprogram ourselves to understand that cooperation is a higher principle than competition.” ~Bryant McGill
For as long as people see cooperation as surrender and loss, they will stick to their guns. They will quibble over the littlest details as they resist being conquered. It is a struggle to feel good.
Redefine cooperation as a worthy honorable pursuit. The psyche wants to live with honor not in humiliating defeat. Give yourself and those you lead chances to experience positive cooperation in fun moments and everyday ways.
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™
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