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Creepy Communication: Use This Checklist to Be Professional

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Creepy Communication: Don’t Make These Mistakes!

What first impression do you make in your professional life? It takes less than 30 seconds to make an impression and have it stick. In addition to your attire and non-verbal gestures, the words you use linger. It’s important to remember that words you can use in a personal setting are not always appropriate for your professional interactions.

Examples Checklist:

  • References to underwear. Professional business settings are not the place to discuss underwear or use it as an analogy. There is a humility quote that continues to circulate on Twitter: “Humility is like underwear, essential, but indecent if it shows.” ~Helen Nielsen. Although a powerful image about humility, quoting it in an interview or on your new job wouldn’t be a great first impression. Avoid words that give the impression of creepy communication.

  • References to unzipping yourself. Years back I attended a public professional development seminar. Early on the seminar leader referred to making mistakes and failure as unzipping himself. He even pantomimed it over and over. His choice of words and gestures were contrary to the audience and topic of professional development. Since I didn’t find him credible, I left.

  • Pressing your intuition. Intuition is very valuable. If you have strong intuition you can be very helpful to others IF you don’t come across as presumptuous. In a professional setting, telling people you know them better than they know themselves can earn you the label of arrogant and/or creepy. Avoid the creepy communication label. Use your intuition wisely without invading people’s identity.

  • Making suggestive remarks about others’ appearance. As you attempt to build positive relationships with your colleagues, be careful of compliments about their appearance. Saying to someone, “you look great today”, can be fine. Saying it with a suggestive tone of voice can be creepy. Saying “that outfit makes you look sexy, alluring, etc…” is definitely not wise. Save those remarks for your personal friends.

What do you want your professional image to be? What do you want people to say about you? Think about it and let it guide how you speak and interact with others.

What creepy communication have you encountered? Pls. share your insights.

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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6 Responses to “Creepy Communication: Essential Changes to Be Professional | #peopleskills”

  1. Hi Kate,

    I recently had someone connect on LinkedIn that I had never met. Immediately after we connected I got a message that said he knew this wasn’t appropriate but he could not help himself and he commented on my looks.

    Yes – creepy communication. And yes – we’re no longer connected.

  2. Jean Arthur Collignon says:

    Ms Nasser

    I find the information that you provide via LinkedIn to be filled w/ wisdom to become a fine communicator of professionalism. Thanks again, this is an essential, valuable read.

    Jean Arthur Collignon

  3. Julie says:

    Good morning!

    I actually had a customer come in one day and compliment a hat I was wearing – it was a felt cowboy-style hat. He actually said, “I like your hat. Makes you look naughty. Your husband will like that.”

    Please note that I was also dressed very conservatively, including wearing a scarf and a blazer. Yeah, that came off a bit creepy!

    • Kate Nasser says:

      Hi Julie,
      He was creepy. He should have stopped after “I like your hat.” Everything after that which related to naughty, sex, etc… was inappropriate!

      Many thanks for sharing your story.

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