Detail People: Do We Mislabel Them as Bystanders? | #PeopleSkills #Leadership
by Kate Nasser |
Have you ever been excited about your idea and run into detail people who don’t jump on board right away? Did you blame them for not giving you instant buy-in? It’s a temptation yet still a mistake. To influence others, understand what moves them and then adapt. Tailor the message to them.
Detail People: Do We Mislabel Them as Bystanders?
Here’s one recent account that illustrates what happens when you blame others for not thinking like you.
A high energy creative driver type person emailed some online colleagues about his idea for a new type of conference. He didn’t know them all well. Some are high energy creatives like him. Others are detail people. The detail people responded simply, this sounds interesting. The high energy creatives emailed “I’m in. Great idea!”
He responded to the detail people: “Are you really interested or are you going to be bystanders?” By mislabeling them as bystanders, he showed himself to be:
Bullying and demanding
Difficult to work with
In leadership, teamwork, service, sales, and relationships in general, connect with others the way they are. Don’t expect them to think like you. To lead change, don’t insult and label those you lead. To sell an idea or product, find out what moves people to move on a decision. Don’t blame them; tailor your message to them.
Do they need …
More details and clarity?
The big picture?
How much time and effort required?
What’s in it for them?
A reason to trust you?
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™
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