Human Interaction Crutches Starve vs. Buoy Our Success | #PeopleSkills
by Kate Nasser |
Human interaction crutches prevent us from falling in weak moments. They keep us standing in tough times. Yet in the long term, those same human interactive crutches grip our identities and starve our success.
5 Human Interaction Crutches That Trap & Starve Success
Most everyone has ways of coping with people especially in tough moments. These coping mechanisms give us balance and support.
On the other hand, human interaction crutches don’t provide balance. They are one-sided. They tip us one way and starve our success.
Stereotyping. Gender, racial, and age stereotyping twist reality. They are all ways to keep others away. However, stereotyping shows bias and weakness. This is not a path to success.
Being smug and arrogant. The holier-than-thou attitude boomerangs every time. Being judgmental and sanctimonius shows insecurity. There is nothing balanced about that! Moreover, thinking we are better than others keeps us comparing and searching for validation. This stops us from seeing opportunities that match our greatness.
Thinking like a victim. There are times when we are victims and must address it. This is especially true when someone is physically abused. Yet living a victim mentality traps us in fear. It is far better to picture ourselves using our energy and brainpower to build our futures. We have the ability to set limits with those who treat us badly. In the future, they will treat us with respect.
Procrastinating. You may not see this as a human interaction crutch yet it is. Asking for what we need and want from others is part of building our success. Timing is everything. When we see someone who can help us and we procrastinate, we miss chances we may never have again.
Assuming. As Henry Winkler said, “assumptions are the termites of relationships.” Assumptions feel safe. Yet they stop listening and skew thinking. This leads to bad decisions. Clarify assumptions. It frees us from the grip of this crutch.
Human Interaction Crutches Weaken Us
Human Interaction Crutches Delay Success
Human interaction crutches are not helpful coping mechanisms. Our crutches hurt others and starve our own success. Like any crutch, they can weaken us if we rely on them forever. Develop emotional intelligence, self-confidence, and great people skills instead!
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™
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