Human Interaction Crutches Starve vs. Buoy Our Success | #PeopleSkills

Human interaction crutches prevent us from falling in weak moments. They keep us standing in tough times. Yet in the long term, those same human interactive crutches grip our identities and starve our success.



Human Interaction Crutches: Image is the rubber bottom of a crutch.

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5 Human Interaction Crutches That Trap & Starve Success

Most everyone has ways of coping with people especially in tough moments. These coping mechanisms give us balance and support.

On the other hand, human interaction crutches don’t provide balance. They are one-sided. They tip us one way and starve our success.

    Human Interaction Crutches Weaken Us

  • Stereotyping. Gender, racial, and age stereotyping twist reality. They are all ways to keep others away. However, stereotyping shows bias and weakness. This is not a path to success.

  • Being smug and arrogant. The holier-than-thou attitude boomerangs every time. Being judgmental and sanctimonius shows insecurity. There is nothing balanced about that! Moreover, thinking we are better than others keeps us comparing and searching for validation. This stops us from seeing opportunities that match our greatness.

  • Thinking like a victim. There are times when we are victims and must address it. This is especially true when someone is physically abused. Yet living a victim mentality traps us in fear. It is far better to picture ourselves using our energy and brainpower to build our futures. We have the ability to set limits with those who treat us badly. In the future, they will treat us with respect.

  • Human Interaction Crutches Delay Success

  • Procrastinating. You may not see this as a human interaction crutch yet it is. Asking for what we need and want from others is part of building our success. Timing is everything. When we see someone who can help us and we procrastinate, we miss chances we may never have again.

  • Assuming. As Henry Winkler said, “assumptions are the termites of relationships.” Assumptions feel safe. Yet they stop listening and skew thinking. This leads to bad decisions. Clarify assumptions. It frees us from the grip of this crutch.


Human interaction crutches are not helpful coping mechanisms. Our crutches hurt others and starve our own success. Like any crutch, they can weaken us if we rely on them forever. Develop emotional intelligence, self-confidence, and great people skills instead!



What human interaction crutches would you add to this list?



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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4 Responses to “Human Interaction Crutches Starve vs. Buoy Our Success | #PeopleSkills”

  1. Khalid says:

    Good day Kate,

    Another insightful post. Well done.

    If I may add, I would add avoiding conflict. We use this as a crutch to move on with our daily interactions but such minor things starts to pile up until one day a big reaction will show up for a tiny little conflict. One should equip himself with the courage to assertively point out the conflict and politely ask the other to be treated better going back to a common ground on what this engagement between both is all about.

    Regards,
    Khalid

    • Kate Nasser says:

      Wonderful addition Khalid! People need to address even the most difficult of moments — verbal conflict included — else more trouble develops!
      Thanks for your contribution.
      Kate

  2. Alli Polin says:

    So interesting. Crutches are supposed to be something we can rely on when we’re weak. You’ve clearly shown us that human interaction crutches do not bolster us but only serve to make us weaker.

    The other one that comes to mind plays into the victim mentality you’ve outlined – blame. It does not make us look better to make someone else look worse.

    Thanks for this, Kate. Words worth sharing!

    Alli

    • Kate Nasser says:

      Another great addition to the list Alli. And you are right — blaming others doesn’t make anybody look better.

      Thanks for your contribution!
      kate

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