Leadership Influence vs. Manipulation | #peopleskills
by Kate Nasser |
Leadership Influence: See Inspiration not Manipulation
I was surprised when some professionals at a conference reacted negatively to the word influence. They associated it with politicians who try to sway opinions their way. They saw influence as manipulation and even lying. That’s quite a departure from the often held view that “leadership is influence.” ~ John C. Maxwell
How do you see leadership influence — positive or negative?
Leadership Influence vs. Manipulation
Each person is an influence for good or bad. Great leadership influence isn’t about convincing people to think their way. Leadership influence creates a picture and invites others to see it through their own eyes. As everyone shares their views, they influence.
- Disregards other’s views and talents.
- Is opportunistic and driven by selfish gain.
- Hints/tells vs. discovers.
- Spins and skews the truth their way.
- Withholds information to further their angle and purpose.
- Focuses on people who can serve them; ignores those who can’t.
Leadership influence …
- Discovers and seeks to understand not to convince.
- Stimulates other’s influence.
- Asks and listens vs. tells.
- Honors emotions doesn’t play on them.
- Respects people for who they are.
- Awakens a vision so everyone can influence the results with their talents.
- Ignites diverse views and opens minds for mega collaboration.
- Transcends the moment and echoes resilience far and wide.
- Draws on professional people skills to balance communication and care.
- Uses honesty and restraint so people can come to a decision vs. being told what to do.
Instead of labeling all leadership influence as manipulation, see what true influence is. It honors and inspires. It connects and creates. Then embrace it. Model it. Participate in it!
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™
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