Leadership People Skills: Achieve Vision With Values Not Ultimatums
by Kate Nasser |
Leadership People Skills: What Reaches the Vision?
Employees applaud leaders with strong clear vision. They applaud them if they can communicate it in a way that respects, engages, and influences others vs. browbeating them.
Employees disengage from leaders with poor leadership people skills no matter how incredible the vision. The vision then slows, fades, or dies altogether.
Leadership people skills aren’t fluff!
They are the expression of values instead of ultimatums.
They respect, honor, and engage people to realize the vision.
Leadership People Skills: What Threatens Their Greatness?
Today’s leaders have embraced leadership people skills as critical to success. Many realize the importance of emotional intelligence and social acumen to engage others. They are working to find the balance between their commitment to their vision AND engaging others to commit to it.
What can at trip up leaders and their great leadership people skills?
- Unshared Values.
- Feeling Trapped.
- High Need for Control.
Without shared values, what connects people? Dire need and life/death situations bind people together temporarily. Yet beyond true crises like these, absence of shared values creates a terrible void. A common goal is not enough to reach the organization vision.
Leaders, what values do you and your employees or constituents share? If you can’t easily answer that, find out. Make it a priority. Else it will plague every interaction and sabotage results.
When leaders feel trapped in tough moments, they often resort to combative negative replies. It’s a common human response. For example, when Governor Chris Christie of NJ was making reforms to the public schools, one unhappy constituent asked him “Where do your kids go to school?” His reply: None of your business where they go to school. (His children go to parochial schools.) His reply was most likely driven by the “uh oh” moment — trapped in a possible contradiction.
Avoid the trap by following one basic rule: empathize before you analyze. It stops the negative response. In the example above, Christie’s response would have been: “I can see that these reforms are tough right now. I know they will lead to better education through a sound financial base. As a Catholic, I choose to send my kids to parochial school. As governor, I work toward better education for everyone.”
Leadership people skills allow you to overcome the trap of anger by giving empathy. Clear thinking flows from there.
The stronger your need for control, the more your leadership people skills will suffer. Fear of sharing power stops listening and that disengages others. When leaders have a high need for control, they mistake listening for capitulation. Don’t make this mistake. Listening is the pathway to engaging others. With listening you see how others think. With this information, you can inspire, influence, and increase commitment to your vision.
Leaders, replace the need to be right with the success of influence!
Take some time and answer these two questions:
- When do my leadership people skills naturally shine?
- When do they fail me, the people I lead, and the vision?
Note how you respond in the good times. You can apply that approach to most situations. You need only be aware of what triggers your outbursts and ultimatums. Replace those responses with empathy for those involved and insight to influence them.
What examples of outstanding leadership people skills would you like to share here?
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™
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