Leadership Self Help: Are You Too Nice to Lead? Part II

Leadership Self Help: From Too Nice to Well Respected

I wrote an article called, Are You Too Nice to Lead? Many read it and liked it. I was pleased. I hoped it would help many balance interpersonal greatness with the other rigors of leadership. Then I received an email from a leader named Dana Flannery who gave me the following feedback.

Leadership Self Help: Image is sign saying self help.

Leadership Self Help: Are You Too Nice to Lead Part II. Image by Franklin Crawford via Flickr.

Grateful for image by Franklin Crawford via Flickr Creative Commons License.

Leadership Self Help: Research, Reflect, Resolve, Revise, and Revive

In Dana’s article, “It Turns Out, I’m a Crappy Manager“, she recounts how one day she suddenly became a manager. As a creative and writer, she was not pleased. Then her sales rep Miriam who is “possibly the nicest person on earth”, told Dana she was too nice! She was telling Dana that her leadership style was so soft, it made Miriam’s job harder.

Dana realized it was time for some leadership self help. After searching online, she found my article about being too nice to lead. She read through the list of possible causes. She then came upon the one that was blocking her leadership success – wanting a virtual hug. But to Dana’s credit, she didn’t stop there. She immediately sat down and wrote a plan on what behaviors she would change on Monday morning and how she would do it. WOW.

This is true leadership self help.

  • Research for information.
  • Reflect on how it relates to you.
  • Resolve to change.
  • Revise your behavior and revive your success!

I am honored that my expertise and article helped Dana in her leadership self help efforts. Far more than that, I am impressed with Dana’s resolve to change. So many people bad mouth self help books as empty words that change nothing. Yet there is no denying that change comes from within us. Others can share their insight and experience. They can inspire. In the end, we each must resolve to change and grow. Kudos Dana, you will go far!

What have you learned through your self help journey that can inspire all of us?

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

Related Posts:
18 Behaviors Respected Well Liked Leaders Consistently Use
Experienced Leaders: What Can You Still Discover

©2016 Kate Nasser, CAS, Inc. Somerville, NJ. I appreciate your sharing the link to this post on your social streams. However, if you want to re-post or republish the content of this post, please email info@katenasser.com for permission and guidelines. Thank you for respecting intellectual capital.

Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, delivers coaching, consulting, training, and keynotes on leading change, employee engagement, teamwork, and delivering the ultimate customer service. She turns interaction obstacles into interpersonal success. See this site for workshop outlines, keynote footage, and customer results.


Engage in people skills learning!

Let’s turn interaction obstacles into business success in leadership, teamwork, and customer service experience.

I invite your questions, welcome your wisdom, and look forward to working with you.
~Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

4 Responses to “Leadership Self Help: Are You Too Nice to Lead? Part II”

  1. Alli says:

    It’s never enough to simply want to change. To few people read an article or a book and actually put their new learning in motion. Says a lot about Dana and about you too, Kate. Thanks for sharing and the critical reminder.

    ~ Alli

    • Kate Nasser says:

      Thanks Alli. As we both work to help others change and grow, I see your comments for the deeper insight they contain. It is so rewarding when we find out that something we’ve written, said, or done has made a true difference in other’s lives — because of their grit and drive to change.


  2. dana says:

    Kate, you will be pleased to hear that I put out a memo, taled to individuals and tomorrow we have it on the sales meeting agenda 🙂

KateNasser on Facebook KateNasser Blog KateNasser on Twitter KateNasser on LinkedIn KateNasser on Pinterest