Leadership Strength: 6 Reasons Leaders Are Harsh vs. Strong #peopleskills
by Kate Nasser |
Leadership Strength: How Do You Express Yours?
New leaders often act tough and harsh. Many outgrow the extremes through experience. Others don’t.
Leadership Strength: 6 Reasons Leaders Are Harsh vs. Strong
They were led that way.
They treat others they way their leaders treated them. Not a recipe for growth and success.
They think kindness and humility mean weakness.
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They discount situation as a leadership factor.
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They think you can’t be well-liked and respected.
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They lack emotional intelligence and don’t want to develop it.
They define leadership strength as coarse and harsh to justify their own natural style. Eventually people see this as selfish and reject these leaders.
They mistakenly see honesty and diplomacy as opposites.
They boorishly communicate anything they think. This is not authenticity and honesty. It isn’t leadership strength. It is leadership incompetence. Communicate with diplomatic honesty and your influence will stretch far and wide.
For the six reasons above AND two more.
They don’t see these leaders’ behaviors as harsh and inappropriate. They see them as strict and think strictness will make everyone better performers.
They shy away from leaders who treat them as equals. To some people, equality is scary. It requires shared responsibility with individual accountability. These folks will accept harshness for less accountability.
Develop your leadership strength through emotional intelligence. It highlights how well you lead in diverse situations. Harshness and coarseness rarely apply. Emotional intelligence, insight, and inner strength universally apply.
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™
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