Make People Skills Easy: Meet Universal Human Needs | #PeopleSkills
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People Skills Made Easy – Meet Basic Universal Human Needs
Whether you are intuitive or not, you can make people skills easy on yourself by meeting universal human needs. At work, at home, and in your community, attending to what others need positions you as a leader. It also builds relationships that help you.
Make People Skills Easy: Meet These Universal Human Needs
When people tell me they can’t learn great people skills because they don’t know what others want, I surprise them with good news. You can make people skills easy by meeting basic universal human needs. It tells people they matter. They respond positively and from there you can learn more about them and refine your people skills.
Basic Universal Human Needs
Respect. Nobody wants to be disrespected. You can be sure that others will be grateful for your respectful communication.
Acknowledgement. Staring constantly at your smart phone or off into space is a poor display of people skills. Show people you see them and you make people skills easy for yourself and them.
Sympathy. When people experience a loss or are in pain, show sympathy. This connection lifts them up. You don’t have to be a poet. Even a simple “I sympathize” goes along way.
Belonging. Reach out to a new team member. It’s an easy way to tell them they belong. Circulate and say hello to people at parties. It’s a great way to break the ice and you make people skills easy for everyone there. As you get to know people at work and in your life, you will develop empathy with many.
Autonomy. Belonging doesn’t mean people want to lose who they are. They want to have some autonomy and make decisions for themselves. You can honor people’s autonomy quite easily. First, give them physical space and also quiet time. Don’t invade their boundaries or monopolize their time. Secondly, ask questions instead of giving orders.
Humans inhabit the earth together. That requires trust to interact. Do your part. Honor the five basic universal needs noted above. Also, show integrity by matching your words and actions. Lastly, be honest not blunt. Follow these simple steps to make people skills easy. They create a solid caring impression and that makes it easier for others to trust you.
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™
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Right on, Kate! People who think that they don’t know what people want are missing what they want too. It’s basic and powerful. Through my coaching, I’ve discovered two other basic human need is to be seen and heard. People who take the time to do that ultimately cultivate People Skills that make an impact.
Will share, Kate! Thanks for making it clear that People Skills is at it’s core, being human.
And cultivating is what it’s all about Alli. Spot on. Many thanks for your added perspective here!