Objectivity vs. Detached Coldness | #Leadership #PeopleSkills

When you think of objectivity, what do you picture? Stepping back — for a moment — to see all the views? Or big picture critical thinking to overcome fears or tunnel vision? Or being truly detached? Many professionals fall into the trap of truly detaching. It doesn’t make their advice objective. It makes it out-of-touch and risky.



Objectivity vs. Detached Coldness

Objectivity vs. Detached Coldness. Image by Thomas Hawk via Flickr.

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Objectivity Is Not Detached Coldness

Objectivity doesn’t mean lack of empathy. In fact, without empathy you can’t understand the true challenge others are having. You must understand what they are going through to give advice. You also have to be caring to build their trust before they will tap your objectivity.

Don’t practice objectivity from the sidelines. The sidelines skew your view. You might step back momentarily to see different views. Yet if you completely detach, your objectivity will lack accuracy.

Objectivity is not judgmental. It’s quite the opposite. It offers everyone a more complete view of the issues and options for solving problems.

Projecting your preferences is not objectivity. This drives some people to believe you must be disengaged to be objective. Not true. You must engage and still keep your preferences quiet.



Objectivity vs. Detached Coldness: Does It Matter?

Well ask yourself, would you like …

  • A cold detached friend? Or an engaged warm objective friend?

  • A detached parent? Or a deeply caring parent who can also be objective?

  • An indifferent spouse or partner? Or one who knows you, gets you, and is helpfully objective?

  • A doctor or dentist with no empathy? Or an empathetic professional who is also objective?


In truth, for others to accept your objectivity, you must deliver it with loads of emotional intelligence. Ironic isn’t it? Most people see objectivity as the absence of emotion. Yet you need emotional intelligence and empathy to be objective. It prevents you from dumping your bias, prejudice, skew, disdain, and preachy shoulds on others while calling it objectivity.



You will give your objective view with true understanding of their feelings and challenges. Moreover, you will deliver with respect. This builds and sustains trust and honors other’s dignity.



From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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2 Responses to “Objectivity vs. Detached Coldness | #Leadership #PeopleSkills”

  1. Alli Polin says:

    You’ve hit on something that most people probably don’t think about. You’re right – it’s not distance but empathy that enables objectivity. It’s about understanding and still taking the 10,000 foot view. Without that understanding, we’re off the mark. So glad you wrote about this. Has me thinking about how it rings true in so many ways. I’m sure others will benefit.

    Alli

    • Kate Nasser says:

      Thank you Alli. I do find that people don’t think of it this way. And if their personality type is grounded in data, they often defend their distance as a requirement of objectivity when in truth, it is their comfort zone speaking.

      Always happy to read your comments as well as your insightful blog posts!
      Kate

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