People Skills Secret Revealed for Introverts & Extroverts

Most everyone knows that introverts and extroverts process life differently. The challenge is how to find success together.

To see how far along your people skills are, take this simple quiz.

    What Does Quiet Mean?

    1. Thinking and Working
    2. Resting
    3. Disinterested

    What Does Expressing Mean?

    1. Communicating
    2. Connecting
    3. Not Listening

People Skills Secret Revealed for Introverts & Extroverts Image by:tcg3j via Creative Commons

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People Skills Secret Revealed

For success through people skills, self-awareness is the big first step. Understanding others’ views is the essential pathway. Adapting and agility is the winning finish.

Did you answer the two questions based on what they mean to you or to others?

  • If you answered based on what they mean to you, then you have taken the great first step. Self-awareness is critical especially during discord and disputes.

  • If you answered based on what you think it means to others who are not like you, you are walking the pathway to success. Adapting to other’s styles validates them and builds trust. It makes interaction easy and delivers great results in customer experience, teamwork, and leadership.

  • If you have tangible examples of how you regularly adapt to others’ by moderating your own extremes, you are most likely experiencing success through people skills.

Whether at work or in personal relationships, success comes to those who can respect the differences, learn to love the differences and find the fit.

Agility is the secret to great people skills! How agile are you?

Learn more: GPS Your Personality Type to Work Well With Everyone

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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6 Responses to “People Skills Secret Revealed for Introverts & Extroverts”

  1. Khalid says:

    Hi Kate,

    Very intersting questions which touch base the interlink between a person and others in a team! I like the way you put this out.

    I think I’m very flexible with others to the extent that some time I put others needs before mine!

    Do you think agility must be controlled or else it might be misused by others?


    • Kate Nasser says:

      Hi Khalid,
      You highlight the #1 concern about this issue — if I am too agile/accommodating will people take advantage?
      Answer: Adapting to personality type does not mean compromising and becoming a doormat. In fact, those who are agile in interacting with others generally achieve more of what they want.

      In the rare times you find someone who mistakes agility for weakness, you can always switch and show that person that you are just as strong as they are.

      Terrific question Khalid. As always your questions bring as much to these posts as your opinions.


  2. Kate, your article took me by surprise, very clever
    I was once told that you can’t change anybody else, only yourself. I guess that is what you mean by agility

    • Kate Nasser says:

      Hi James,
      Grateful for the kudos. As for agility — people who can adapt to others (agility) don’t lose themselves. They actually succeed through influence.

      So happy to see your comment and hope you will contribute to any post of interest here at Smart SenseAbilities(TM).

      Warmest thanks,

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