People Skills to Humanize Your Social Networking

Social media has expanded the reach and diversity of professional networking.  It has not replaced the people skills (also known as soft skills or interpersonal skills) needed for successful networking.  Those that humanize their social networking with memorable people skills capture business deals, media exposure, and interviews for plum jobs. The following key principles, done well, make all the difference!

Humanize Your Networking - People Skills

People Skills to Humanize Networking

Humanizing: Ask about them. Goals, networking goals, interests, specialties, etc… to be a substantive connection for them       versus

Impersonal:  “Are you a member of _____?”  This is not a great opening line nor the primary focus of anyone’s life. Do you care about knowing them or just finding people who belong to a similar group?

Humanizing: Reply with a statement that shows interest in them and then add something about you. Make the connection by connecting into what they have told you versus

Impersonal: Replying purely with your information.

Humanizing: Disagree without being disagreeable. The ideas may be different yet the “I’s” can still respect each other versus

Impersonal: Telling them they are wrong.

Humanizing: Express your preferences as preferences versus

Impersonal: Speaking in command mode. One day on Twitter, someone sent me the following tweet: “Stop tweeting on the naysayer theme.” I un-followed him immediately.

Humanizing: Express gratitude from the beginning and acknowledge their help publicly/privately versus

Impersonal: Using phrases like “now that you are on board”. That was the first message I received from a brand new connection. People might jump ship after that opening!

What else would you add to this list on humanizing networking? I welcome your ideas in the comments field below. Learning is the fuel for great people skills.

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People-Skills Coach™

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8 Responses to “People Skills to Humanize Your Social Networking”

  1. Kathi Browne says:

    Humanizing: Show appreciation and gratitude in response to actions that deserve them versus

    Impersonal: Failing to say thank-you, implying the relationship doesn’t deserve it.

  2. Humanizing: Praise people publicly and critique privately (and politely) versus

    Impersonal: Criticizing people publicly in a way that makes them defensive rather than cooperative.

    • Kate Nasser says:

      So very true Karen. There are many online doing just the opposite with shattering results. Great addition to this post and I am grateful. I will check out your blog shortly. It has a very interesting name!

      Warmest wishes,

  3. Kate,

    Thank you so much. Honestly. As a new blogger and twitter user I’m still figuring it out.

    It all boils down to manners!

    Thank you!

  4. Humanizing: Absorb differing and difficult points of view to enrich your perspective and respect others.

    Impersonal: Immediately dismiss another point of view or attack the message sender.

    • Kate Nasser says:

      Nice touch Mark. And your reminder to be open-minded is true of many aspects in life — not just networking.

      Great “add”. Thanks for visiting and contributing to Smart SenseAbilities.

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