Presuming Fear Patronizes People | #PeopleSkills #Leadership
by Kate Nasser |
Presuming fear in people patronizes them and shows your weakness. Consider these moments where you might presume others are afraid. How does it make them feel? Comforted or demeaned?
Presuming Fear in Others Shows Your Weakness and Need
Presuming fear is what others are feeling doesn’t necessarily comfort them. Listening clearly and learning the truth gives you the chance to interact and respond appropriately.
Common Moments of Presuming Fear
Doctors, nurses, and other healthcare professionals who presume patients are afraid patronize and dominate when the patients want to get a second opinion
Coaches who presume fear when those they coach work at a different pace than what they prefer
Team members who think their teammates are afraid when they don’t want to do physically challenging team building exercises. Maybe they have medical conditions or physical limitations you don’t know about.
Leaders who presume fear when team members want information and details before they move ahead. Maybe their work style is different from yours.
People who presume fear when people prefer calm fun vs. wild fun. Maybe they just define fun differently from you!
Friends who presume others are afraid of their dog when those folks simply don’t like dogs jumping up and licking them. The common retort, “Don’t worry … the dog won’t hurt you” shows that you live in your own reality.
While you are presuming fear, what are you not learning and seeing in others? Are you overlooking how people think, what they really need, what they care about, and the current reality? Instead you are showing …
Your weakness and need to:
Assume without asking
Feel better than others
Move ahead without listening
Fit the truth into your skew
Project your thoughts & dominate
Presuming fear in others robs everyone of the chance for true connection and shared success. Connect and learn about people. You will also find opportunities to give them the kind of care they truly need.
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™
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