Prevent Jealousy: See More Than People’s Highlight Reels | #PeopleSkills
by Kate Nasser |
In life and work you can prevent jealousy with one simple straightforward step — don’t compare yourself to others. Now some people bristle at this idea. They claim the only way they know if they are succeeding is to compare themselves to other’s progress. Well we could debate that one yet it just might be easier to revise the don’t compare yourself to others motto with this more specific one:
Here are the benefits to you, to those who are jealous of you, and to leaders and managers coaching employees who are jealous of each other.
Prevent Jealousy: Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
Consider just how much damage jealousy does in the workplace:
Eats away at team cohesion
Drives people to avoid those that are jealous of them
Skews people’s view of why someone else got promoted
Makes some people less productive
Takes up time that could be used on growth
Help Others Give Up Jealousy
The first time I read Steven Furtick’s quote about the highlight reel, I was taken with it’s powerful vision. How many people look at someone and get jealous because they see only a quick snapshot? They have no idea what that person has been through or is still going through. Yet, they let that quick snapshot — that highlight reel — make them jealous.
It then came to me how uncomfortable I’ve been when some were jealous of me. I used to get very annoyed as their jealousy drove them to passive aggressive behavior and mindless competition. Then I realized that if I shared Steven Furtick’s quote with them, it would help them realize that we all work hard on our own goals. We all struggle, hit rough spots, and keep on going. It worked!
So remember, you can prevent jealousy in yourself and help others avoid becoming jealous with the simple reminder to not compare your daily behind the scenes life to someone else’s highlight reel.
Prevent Jealousy: Special Message to Leaders
Don’t compare employees to each other. If you want to inspire some to develop their skills further, focus on what they each need to do not what other employees are doing.
Then, if you are coaching an employee who is jealous of others, discuss what they see as their own strengths and areas for growth. It could be they don’t value themselves or they are not willing to do the hard work to grow. As you discover the obstacles, you can help them not compare their daily struggles to someone else’s highlight reel.
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™
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