The Weakness of Extreme Strength
by Kate Nasser |
Can you think of someone who would not want to be called the best? Most everyone would beam at this honor. Being the best means you have an extreme strength. It emerges from a natural talent or intense study, practice and development.
Yet there is a weakness to every extreme strength. That weakness is the undeveloped counter-strength you might need someday.
For self-development, traditional wisdom says:
#1 Be aware of your weakness
#2 Know how to change
#3 Have the desire to change
Weakness of Extreme Strength
Why does the weakness often persist?
The organization taps you for your strength. More of your time is spent using a strength than developing a counter-strength.
Using the strength feels better than the struggle of developing a weakness. We yield to the positive feelings.
Being called the best can create overconfidence and block growth. Consider, when are you too confident to learn?
Believing that the counter-strength is inconsistent with the extreme strength. Picture a strong analytic who relies heavily on data and looks down on non-analytic thinking. They may be initially less likely to develop and use big picture thinking necessary in a leadership.
Fearing that it will weaken the extreme strength. For example, strong driver personalities who push for the end results are sometimes afraid that participatory leadership will undermine success.
Overcoming the grip of extreme strength:
- If the organization is the obstacle, ask for a short project where you can learn a counter-strength.
- If the positive feelings are holding you back, picture the negative feelings of being unprepared for the next skill set needed.
- If overconfidence is trapping you, find a trusted friend or mentor to snap you out of it with honest feedback.
- If are stuck in one belief, search for examples to test the accuracy of it. Is it a feeling or a fact? If it is a feeling, you can stretch past it and develop a counter-strength.
- If fear of failure is stopping you, find people who have your strength and the counter-strength you need. Their balanced success can move you past your fear.
How have you developed counter-strengths to balance your greatest strengths? What success have you had that will help others?
From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™
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