Winning Everything Only for Ourselves Isn’t Everything | #PeopleSkills #Business

Ambition and a winning attitude are great as long as we don’t believe that winning everything is everything in life. If we live to conquer others, we lose the benefits that positive can-do attitudes deliver. However, using our ambition to create a better life for everyone delivers the “wow” we associate with winning everything.

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Remember, Winning Everything for Ourselves ISN’T Everything!

Winning for everyone’s benefit creates a warm breeze of generosity. It spreads, multiplies, and yields exponentially more.

Conversely, winning everything only for ourselves creates a life of …

  • Always needing to protect what we’ve won. How much happier could we be if we used that time to help others?

  • Us vs. them. What joy could we experience with others instead of against them?

  • Thinking we always need more and chasing it. Life and career coach Alli Polin wrote a powerful article, How Will You Know When You Have Enough? When I read her post, I immediately thought of people who looked back and wondered why they collected so many things. Couldn’t we use our time better by focusing on what’s truly important?

  • Little joy. Joy doesn’t come from the goal of conquering others and winning everything for yourself. You don’t plan joy and check it off the list.

  • Defining our self-worth as possessions. This blocks true self-worth.

  • Insecurity and mistrust of others. No matter how courageous or ambitious you are, thinking of being the only winner puts you in guarded mode. You will always have that little voice of mistrust pulsing inside.

What have you gained by helping others win with you?

From my professional experience to your success,
Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™

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4 Responses to “Winning Everything Only for Ourselves Isn’t Everything | #PeopleSkills #Business”

  1. Farrukh says:

    Kate! Your each & every article is full of professional wisdom and, I enjoyed and enhanced my learning.

  2. Alli Polin says:

    Our lives have meaning only in relationship with others. Change happens through relationships, life, success, winning, loving, you name it. A room full of treasures can’t replace true connection.

    Thanks for sharing your insights on this important topic.


    • Kate Nasser says:

      Ah Alli — one cogent statement that sums it all up: “A room full of treasures can’t replace true connection.”

      Your blog post that inspired my blog post comes full circle with that thought. FYI: Our #PeopleSkills global Twitter chat this SUN. will take on this topic. Would love it if you could join us!


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